TIME FOR GROWTH

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TIME FOR GROWTH

It's not up to you how you fall. It's up to you how far you let yourself fall and how long it takes you to get back up and stand on your own two feet.

It’s always only the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, you must know it. The greatness comes not when the things go always good for you but the greatness comes when you are really tested. When you take some knocks, some disappointments, when sadness comes. Because only if you’ve been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain – Richard Nixon

Signal for growth

Always give your best. Never get discouraged. Never be petty. Always remember. We have to realize that time of stress and also the times that are signals for growth. If we use adversity properly we can grow through adversity. These things happen to you and you think you’ve been dealt a terrible hand or had bad luck and you just go with it. You start improvising. Suddenly you realize you’ve stumbled on one of the best things that ever happened to you. One of the biggest disabilities we have as human beings is disbelief.

 

Lobster

I will tell you a story about lobsters. Lobster are soft bushy animal that lives inside of a shell. That sell does not expend. As the lobster grows that shell becomes very confining. Lobster feels self under pressure and uncomfortable. Casts of the shell and proceeds into a new one. And eventually that shell also becomes very uncomfortable as it grows. The lobster repeats this numerous times. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. Now if lobsters have doctors they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, it goes to the doctor, gets a Valium or Percocet and feels fine.

 

Vulnerable

It will never get of his shell.  In order for the lobster to grow, at various stages of its life, it must molt. In other words, it has to get rid of its old shell and start to form a new one. Well for about 20-30 minutes the lobster is vulnerable whilst molting, it essentially becomes a piece of meat for other aquatic creatures on the prowl. The Lobster knows this, and has taken certain precautions to try to stop them from being as vulnerable such as forming a thin skin before it molts, and changing color. However, for the most part it knows that in order to grow larger it must get over its fear of being vulnerable and just shed its old shell.

 

Cut it off

Sometimes you’ve got to cut a little piece of yourself off, no matter how much it hurts in order to grow, in order to move on. Cut your fear off. Don’t have mercy for it. Don’t be afraid. Say you’re going to do something. Say it once. Put it out there for the world to see and go out and do it.

 

Ups and downs

You will have good days and you will have bad days but you will always learn something more or something new and you will learn more overall on bad days then good days. You will make mistakes along the way. You will fall down. I have. Many times. But what we do after we fall is what really counts.

 

Don’t shy away

Most of us have been on the end of many defeats in our life and we rose back. Don’t shy away from it. Don’t make excuses for it. Assess it and come back. If you can see it in your mind and you have courage to speak it. It will happen.

 

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ONE PHONE CALL AWAY

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ONE PHONE CALL AWAY

No one wants to die. Even the people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it – Steve Jobs

We are just a doctor’s visit away or phone call away from being starkly reminded with the fact of our own mortality or those closest to us. You must know how uncanny it is to suddenly be thrown out of the normal course of your life and just be given a full-time job of not dying or carrying for someone. We rarely think about it but it may happen to all of us.

 

Petty concerns

The one thing we tend to realize in moments like this it that we’ve wasted a lot of time when life was normal. It’s not just what we did with that time. It’s not just that we’ve spend too much time working or compulsively checking emails. It’s that we’ve cared about wrong things. It the moments like this we often regret what we’ve cared about. Our attention was bound up in petty concerns year after year when life was normal.

 

Forever?

Deep inside we all know it may come in an instant. Don’t you know that? Don’t you know that there’s going to come a day when you’ll be sick or someone close to you will die. You will look back on the kind of things that captured your attention and you will say What was I doing? You know this and yet if you’re like most people you’ll spend most of your time in life presuming you’re going to live forever.

 

Unexpectedly

We take for granted so much that everyday we’re just going to wake up and that we are going to go through the same routines get to see the same people. That those people are going to be there when we come home at night. That every day is going to be the same way like the other but right now when you’re reading this there are hundreds of people whose life was taken by surprise. Unexpectedly. 

 

Reaper will come

Even if you live to be hundred there’s not that my days in life. Way too many of us are trying to check the boxes of the things that do not really interest us. In doing that we’re wasting majority of our life. Shortly before his death Randy Pausch ‘We don't beat the Grim Reaper by living longer, we beat the Reaper by living well and living fully, for the Reaper will come for all of us. The question is what do we do between the time we are born and the time he shows up. It's too late to do all the things that you're gonna kinda get around to… It is not the things we do in life that we regret on our death bed. It is the things we do not. I assure you I've done a lot of really stupid things, and none of them bother me. All the mistakes, and all the dopey things, and all the times I was embarrassed — they don't matter. What matters is that I can kind of look back and say: Pretty much any time I got chance to do something cool I tried to grab for it — and that's where my solace comes from.’

 

Find you passion

You will need find your passion. Many of you have already done it, many of you will later, many of you may take to your thirties or forties, but don't give up on finding it. Right, then all you are doing is waiting for the reaper. Find your passion and follow it. And if there is anything that I have learned in life, you will not find that passion in things. And you will not find that passion in money. Because the more things and the more money you have, the more you will just look around and use that as the metric — and there will always be someone with more. Your passion must come from the things that fuel you from the inside. And honors and awards are nice things, but only to the extent that they regard real respect from your peers. And to be thought of well by people you think of more highly up is a tremendous honor I've been granted. Find your passion, and in my experience, no matter what you do at work or what you do in in official settings, that passion will be grounded in people. It will be grounded in the relationships you have with people and what they think of you when your time comes – Randy Pausch

 

Darkness

You see when are in that darkness you want to sit there and wait for the light to come. When you’re in that darkness it feels uncomfortable and the only way out is to step forward to face your fears, to become your own light. Make a decision right now that when you are going to be in that darkens you will remember the power of you. Nobody is going to take you out of that darkness. You have to push yourself out of it. When you have that bourdon upon you that’s when it’s time to fuel yourself up. There is a light somewhere. It may not be much light but it beats the darkness. You can’t beat death but you can beat death in life.  

 

3 things

Your disease does not define you. It can take all your physical abilities, but it cannot touch your mind, it cannot touch your heart and it cannot touch your soul. And those three things are going to carry on forever.

 

With passion

Realize that time is very precious to all of us. Neither of us knows how much we have left. Don’t give up. Don’t ever give up. Live your life with passion. Laugh. Think. Cry. Be enthusiastic every day. Be grateful for every day you have left.

Enjoy your life. Your life matters and it matters for a lot of people.

Love you Dad

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FAILURE STORIES EP.08 LES BROWN

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

Look at a man the way he is and he only becomes worse, but look at him as if he were what he could be, then he becomes what he should be - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

It’s very important to believe you are the one to do it- Les Brown

He was born in an abandoned building, adopted and labeled as educable mentally retarded early in school. His life is a story of perseverance and hustle to get where he is right now.

 

Label

Shortly after being born on the floor of an abandoned building in poor side of Miami, Les Brown and his twin brother were adopted by Mamie Brown, a kitchen worker and maid. When Les was in 5th grade he was labeled as educable mentally retarded and put back from the 5th grade to 4th grade. Same thing happened again in the 8th grade. Upon graduation, he became a city sanitation worker in Miami Beach. But he had a dream of being a disc jockey. At night, he would take a transistor radio to bed where he listened to the local jive-talking deejays. He created an imaginary radio station in his tiny room with its torn vinyl flooring. A hairbrush served as his microphone as he practiced his patter, introducing records to his imaginary listeners. He was wrapped up in his own world, living a dream.

 

Greatest gift

He didn’t receive any collage training but one particular speech and drama instructor changed his life. His name was Leroy Washington. Mr. Washington gave him a greatest gift anyone can ever give. A different vision of himself. When Les was in his class waiting for a different student, Mr. Washington said “Young man go to board and work this problem out for me”.Oh, Sir I can’t do that” – replied Les.Why not?” - said the teacher.  “I’m not one of your students”.  While looking at him Mr. Washington said: “Go to that board and work the problem out”. With a trembling voice Les mumbled “Sir I can’t do that, because I’m educable mentally retarded. I’m in special education”. The students started laughing and they said: “That’s Lesley. Not Wesley. His DT. Wesley is the smart twin”.  “What is DT stand’s for?” – said Mr. Washington.  Lesly relied with a shame on his face: “I’m the dumb twin, Sir”. As the students laugh at him, Mr. Washington came from behind and looked at him: “Don’t you ever say that again. Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality”. On the one hand Les was humiliated but on the other hand he felt liberated.

 

Worth doing badly

From felling free he looked at his goals and dreams and said to himself How am I going to do that? He went straight from his heart to his mind and he stayed up there for 14 years.  The first time Les stood up to speak publicly his mind set down. He looked at the audience and he panicked. He had to introduce a play but he ran of the stage. Mr. Washington said to him: “If you run now, you will always be running. Anything that’s is worth doing, is worth doing badly until you get it right. Go back out there”. Other students dog him out and he became the laughing-stock of the whole school

 

Breaking the fear

Another event came out Mr. Washington said: Mr Brown you’re up. Les went up and pretty soon when people laughed at him it didn’t even bother him. Later one day he came out and he came to himself. He broke out of that fear and in front of the whole school gave the first of his great speeches.

 

DJ

One day Les boldly went to the local radio station during his lunch break from mowing grass for the city. He got into the station manager’s office and told him he wanted to be a disc jockey. When it turned out that he didn’t have any background in broadcasting, it was the end of the conversation. But young Les was far from being over. His commitment to his goal was remarkable. Les had strong enough reasons, higher purpose than simply wanting to be a disc jockey. He wanted to buy a nicer house for his adoptive mother, whom he loved deeply. This job was just the step on the way.

Patience

And so Les returned to the station every day for a week, asking if there were any job openings. Finally, the station manager gave in and took him as a free intern. Les did whatever was asked of him at the station – and more. While hanging out with the deejays, he studied their movements on the control panel. At night, he practiced and prepared himself for the opportunity that he knew would present itself.

 

Opportunity

One Saturday afternoon it did. Because of his persistence and preparation, Les was ready. He wowed the audience and his general manager. As you pursue your dream, you are becoming stronger and smarter. In one of his speeches he said: There will be times when doors of opportunity open up for you as you walk your path. Stay focused and stay true to your dream, and more doors will open up for you.

 

Mental conditioning

When he watched Dr Norman Vincent Peale speak publicly he thought: I could do that. I would love to talk to people. I can do that. But when he started going back to his car his mental conditioning activated itself and it said: Les Brown you can’t do that. You don’t have a college education. You don’t have the training. You’ve never worked for major corporation. What makes you think you can?

 

Floor

It was hard when Les entered the motivational speaking arena in the mid-1980s, he had virtually nothing but one tape of his motivational speeches. He rented an office in Pen Penobscot Building in Detroit, Michigan and he felt on some hard times. He was sleeping on the floor in his office. In one of his great speeches just three years later he said: “I didn't even want a blanket or a pallet on the floor. I wanted it to be hard and cold so it would motivate me to keep striving. I didn't want to get soft." It was hard for him when had to read a letter from bulling management that he cannot sleep in his office. It was hard for him to go through the lobby and get laughed out.

 

Dream

Pursuing your dream, you will face disappointments, defeats and failures. But that’s okay. That’s given. Dreams are supposed to be hard to reach – that’s why they are called dreams. It’s very important (to know) when you hold on to that dream, there are moments when you’re going to doubt yourself. Rough times are gonna come but they have not come to stay. They have come to pass – Less Brown

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SLIGHT EDGE

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Based on a Jeff Olson’s ‘The slight egde’

 

Water or soda?

Do you ever have a choice between a glass of water and a glass of soda and you pick the soda because “well if you have a glass of soda today, it’s not like you’re going to wake up overweight and unhealthy tomorrow?”

 

Paradox

That’s basically how we all like to think that somehow, success only comes from doing huge, important things right. We have that big paradox. On one hand, you’re right. The little decision doesn’t really matter. This one decision won’t really affect your health in any significant way, right? Getting drunk one time won’t ruin your life. Eating chips when you feel instant urge won’t make you unhealthy. Examples are everywhere.

 

Power of compounding

But on the other hand, it’s really the only thing that matters. Because in a year, you will be the result of your every little decision compounded. We simply are humongous piles of our own decisions. It’s not about judging anyone but it’s especially easy to notice in our physical appearances. We can all agree that not everybody’s going to be an athlete but we can easily spot if someone is working out 4 times a week for last 3 years, right?

 

Easy (not) to do

In essence, every little decision matters. And these little things are easy to do. When you’re on your lunch break tomorrow can make a choice of drinking water instead of soda, fruit instead of cake, vegetables instead of fat fries. Anyone is capable of doing that. But since it’s so easy to do, it is also easy not to do, and just order the soda.

 

Patience

But what if you decide to do this little thing right? You won’t be any healthier the next day, but after a year you would see huge health benefits from it. We have to stop thinking just about instant pleasure because the true reward is usually postponed.

 

Working out

I have come back to working out in the beginning of January. I haven’t been doing that for last couple of years. At least not regularly. Now it’s 6 times a week. Just 30 to 40 minutes in the evening. It has become such a vital part of my moonlight. I’m not falling asleep over my laptop any more. I feel a lot more energized and I don’t feel any muscle or joint pains any more. What’s quite suppressing to me is that it was fairly easy and there were only few days when I really had to push myself to do it.

 

Decision

Just two days ago, I went to catch up with my best buddies. One of them told me how he stopped eating sweets 9 month ago. He said: ”I really loved sweets and I was really nurturing that emotion. When I was coming back to my parent’s house I was everything they had. If they had a whole bowl of candy I was on it until it was empty. Sometimes when I was at home working on my laptop in the evening I was eating three regular bars of cholate in one sitting. I love it. One day I’ve really decided to stop”. Now after 9 month he feels energized, healthier, lighter. He doesn’t experience neither energy swings nor huge sugar urges. Every once in a while, he allows himself to eat a piece of cake but this is just a reward. It’s not an urge, instinct or a habit. This allows him to really enjoy the moment.

     

Investment

We can apply this to anything. Like Reading. What’s if you decide to read for 15 minutes a day before going to bed? That’s pretty easy to do. But since it’s pretty easy to do, it’s also pretty so easy to ignore it. If you read for 15 minutes tonight you won’t suddenly wake up smarter or more enlighten tomorrow morning. But what about a year from now? That’s going to be at least 6 books. 6 good books can literally turn you to completely different person. Whether it will be related to finances, sales, accounting, relationships or overall happiness. But first you need to make that decision.   

 

Every little decision

Paradox – on one hand you can fall for the unsuccessful mindset ‘well, it’s not like this little decision matters’ but in reality, the little decisions we make are all that matters. Every little decision of yours will be compounded at the end of the year. Who you are will be the result of it all. Neither you, me nor anyone else will be able to control every piece of our behavior. Luckily, we are not those little robots which do everything right. But at least we are more aware of how we think about little things and we can change them piece by piece. 

 

It counts

Try to align more of your little decision with your vision. The more you can do it the closer you will be to the person you really want to become. Take responsibility for where you are in life. It’s always us who decide to buy that soda.  

 

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100 DAYS OF CHANGE A MONTH TO REMEMBER

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January is already over and I really wanted to tell you what happened during that 31 days. You might think what could possibly have changed in a single month? Did anything change at all or am I just embellishing reality? Bear with me and you’ll find out.

DaybyDay

Let’s start with the biggest thing right away. If I could only name one thing that made the biggest difference and gave the best outcomes, without any hesitation I would say scheduling and organizing my day before and after work. This doesn’t sound like anything big but it’s really huge. Scheduling each upcoming week on the Sunday evening gave me clarity and focus. This single thing allowed me to accomplish and finish more things in this single month then in previous three months. Thanks to the excel workbook (8 sheets) I have created I see both my daily, weekly, monthly goals as well as my vision for this year and future after that.

 

Mine of time

Organizing my day and blocking time for each thing I want to do is the great time mine of time. It’s a great discovery of time you think you don’t have. You have it. It’s right there. But you have to go to that mine and for dig it.

 

Easy

Subpage for Failure Stories been on my mind for at least one month before. There wasn’t too much work behind it but somehow, I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t decide. As soon as it was scheduled it sure for me that it’s going to be done. And it was done in one evening. 

 

Sudden

On the other hand, subpage for 100 days of Change was a quick and sudden idea. A lot more work but I really wanted to do it. I have decided to do it when it was still fresh and compelling. Two evenings of my grind and a few more for implementation by my wonderful wife. Although it was not in my plan for January but I’m so happy we did this.

 

Delayed

For last six months, I wanted to build portfolio saving structure for our family. We were saving but not allocating it in the way I though was best for us. I was procreating to create that portfolio setup. Turned out to be 6 excel sheets, lots of formulas done in just two evenings. Something that was on my mind for six months was done in two evenings. 8 hours. How easy is to catch up on the things we are procrastinating?  

 

Visualization

This is vital part of my morning routine. Either done during the morning run or in front of the mirror. Thinking about three things I’m grateful and smiling to the mirror is a best way to start my day. This wakes and strengthens my empathy for others and my overall happiness. Second part of this process is visualization of my milestone goals and daily tasks. Clouds and dirt. Rocks and sand. Call it whatever you want. Reading and rehearsing my vision gives me an incredible boost of energy to grind and hustle every day.

 

New Habits

30-minute evening workouts became such a vital part of my moonlight. 27 times in 31 days. I feel a lot more energized and I don’t feel any muscle or joint pains any more. This habits is definitely going to stay. What’s quite suppressing to me is that it was fairly easy and there were only few days when I really had to push myself to do it.

 

Last thing on the list

On the other hand, reading for 15 minutes right before going to bed wasn’t easy at all. This was a struggle almost every day. I wanted to do such much on each evening that when it was the time for the last thing on the list, which is reading, I was almost falling asleep. 25 times doesn’t look so bad but there is a lot to improve here.

 

Week themes

This was kind a small reminder of one general thing I wanted to practice and pay attention to during each week. Posture/body language, voice (for two weeks), gestures, energy while speaking. Although you may not see or hear the difference, I do. I pay a lot more attention to those four areas. When I catch myself on doing something like e.g. shrinking my body or mumbling I instantly stop and change it. Theme weeks are about of practice but even more about self-awareness.   

 

Temptation

I have decided I’m not going to eat any sweets during the week. Only on weekends. After Christmas, our cupboard was full of sweets, what made it a lot harder to accomplish. It was easy and pleasant when I was full of energy and feeling great. But when I was tired it was getting tricky. Temptation was getting bigger but I managed to contain it. During the first weekend, I probably eat too much sweets but now I almost don’t feel any urge at all. Even though we still have some of the same sweets in the cupboard I doesn’t take any willpower from me not to eat them. Not anymore. Decision is taken. Habit is created.      

 

9 is better than none

9 runs.  I’m not particularly happy with that. I was aiming at 13 but 9 is better than none.  I was struggling with getting up for the first three weeks but now I think it’s a little bit easier. I’ve adjusted my running schedule to better fit DaybyDay plan. When I’m able to sleep for 6 or 7 hours is quite easy to wake up and run. But when it’s 5 and a half or less it takes a lot from me. When I do actually run in the morning it’s incredible feeling and I know the day is going to mine. So, it’s time to fix it.    

 

Progress. Growth. Happiness.

All in all, this 100 days of Change gives me so much energy to perform on a higher level. There is so much time for extra tiny activities that I feel a great progress every day. I know I’m on the mission to change my life one small step after the other. Progress. Growth. Happiness.

 

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MINDFULNESS

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MINDFULNESS

Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most - Buddha

It’s been a week since I have attended mindfulness workshop and I want to share my feelings with you. 

 

Unbeliever

Although mindfulness was quite familiar to me I came to the meeting only because my dear friend Ania was a speaker and coach. In case you missed it, let me tell you few words about Ania. Well, I feel that Ania pushed a countdown button of change in my life. We’ve worked together along one of my best friend Marcin, side by side for almost 4 years, giving each other lots of needed support. We went through many similar ups and down. Mostly downs. But being there with those two was the only reason why it was remotely bearable. Sometimes even fun.  All those daily talks with her sow the seed of confidence and change in me. At that time, I was almost not susceptible to any change.  Think of someone you know who is that extremely suborn unbeliever. And that was me. Ania didn’t tell me to change. She didn’t try to change me. But along my wonderful wife and Tony Robbins, they inspired the change and invited it to my life. It’s a lot to be grateful for.

 

Notification

When I saw facebook notification that Ania will be running a Mindfulness Coaching workshop I knew I will be there. Big shout out to Bogus, incredible character who was the host of this wonderful experience.

 

State

I understood mindfulness as a state of maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. A state demanding self-acceptance, paying attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them. Without thinking if we are “right” or “wrong”. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than recalling the past or imagining the future.

 

Why Practice Mindfulness?

Studies have shown that practicing mindfulness, even for just a few weeks, can bring a variety of physical, psychological, and social benefits. Along many different benefits here are just a few most important in my opinion:

  1. Physical. Studies show that after just eight weeks of training, practicing mindfulness meditation boosts our immune system’s ability to fight off illness.
  2. Emotional. Mindfulness increases positive emotions and empathy while reducing negative emotions and stress.
  3. Abilities. Mindfulness increases our ability to learn and memorize.
  4. Focus. Mindfulness helps us keeping focus. We acquire great ability to tune out distractions.
  5. Happiness. That’s the most important benefit in my book. On top of all benefits mentioned above mindfulness fosters compassion, empathy and altruism. It directly affects our mental state, our optimism and level of relaxation. Tell me isn’t that all we need for life?

 

How to get mindful?

Although mindfulness can be practiced through formal meditation, that’s not the only way.

  1. Breathing. Pay close attention to your breathing, especially when intense emotions rise.
  2. Senses. Sharpen your senses by really noticing sounds, smells and sights that usually slip away.
  3. Thoughts. Quite often our thoughts are running around like a small puppy. Be forgiving to that puppy. Recognize that your thoughts and emotions but don’t let them play their own game.

 

Questions

As many of you know I’m big believer in questions (Power of questions).  By asking ourselves proper set of questions we can start being mindful and present in everyday life. Next time your mood changes and something emotional happens ask yourself following questions:  

  1. What is going inside of my body?
  2. What am I thinking about when my mood changes?
  3. What is happening inside my body? Is my heart beating faster? Do my muscles get tensed? How about my facial expressions?
  4. How do I feel in that moment? What emotions do I feel?
  5. How other people feel in that same moment?

Give mindfulness a chance and you won’t regret it. There is really nothing to lose but a full life to win.

Mindfulness is all I have been about last two years without even knowing it. Thank you Ania and Bogus!

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FAILURE STORIES EP. 07 CHRIS SACCA

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Chris Sacca is as an extremely successful venture capitalist, with stakes in Instagram, Kickstarter, Uber, Twitter, and dozens of other prominent start-ups like Stripe, Lookout and WordPress. He’s widely known from being ranked third on Forbes annual Midas List of tech’s 100 top investors as well as being a recurrent quest on Shark Tank. What is not so familiar is how his incredible journey started. Investing his student loans, making tones of money, losing a lot more and ending up with 4 million in debt.

 

Student loans

Although Chris succeeded in school his entire life, he had no idea what should be the purpose of his life. He studied advanced mathematics and was on the honor roll for 12 straight marking periods.  By 11th grade he felt burned out and wanted to pursue a college degree where there would be no math.  Chris took the natural step of going to law school. He quickly realized that going to classes is entirely optional and he can use that time start his own company thanks to government money from his student loan checks.

 

Hot hand

The company quickly folded and Chris used the money that was left to hit the stock market.  He invested in several of the hottest tech stocks of the decade. Not only he was successfully investing his student loans, but he leveraged the gaps he found in the terms and conditions of day trading platforms. Chris turned tens of thousands of dollars for his student loans into $12 million by 2000.

 

Bubble burst

At that point, being still a very young and inexperienced investor Chris never thought of cashing out some of his virtual money. Instead, with very little diversification, he continued to double down. You can probably guess what happened next. When the stock market crashed several of Chris’ stocks quickly plummeted and very quickly he found his paper net worth had fallen to $2 million. Feeling disappointed and overwhelmed he decided to take a break, clear his mind and walk away from the stock market for several weeks.

 

Debt

While he was travelling to Austria the leftovers of his portfolio dived even harder. An informal remark by Bill Clinton and Tony Blair about joint policy in the notion of patents around genetic technology, when viral in the news.  As the companies from this industry were the core of Chris’s portfolio, there were not much left this time. Playing this dangerous game and not giving himself the extent of the margin in his investments, Chris immediately wind up $4 million in debt with no means of paying it back.

 

Adult sites

Still keeping his nerves, he refused to declare bankruptcy and negotiated a workout plan with his creditors which reduced his total debt to $2.125 million. Over the course of next five years Chris completed law school, and got his hustle on. He worked for one of Silicon Valley law firm, but got fired after 13 months. Next step was opening up his own consultancy. This journey took him through writing terms and conditions for online adult sites and a variety of other less than impressive tasks. Remarkably, he managed to pay down the two-plus million dollars in debt at some point in 2005.

 

Angel

For the next four years Chris worked at Google. After that started his first angel investments in PhotoBucket and Twitter, for which he is much better known. What few realize, however is that his success today very nearly didn’t happen. It was his tenacity and refusal to quit, even when reckless at times, that paved his road to becoming one of the most respected and successful angels in Silicon Valley.

 

How?

Chris didn't study business or engineering, doesn't know how to program a computer or worked at a big venture firm. So how did he pulled it off? He does it by buddying up with well-chosen founders and very often serves as a mentor. It seems like he could take on everything but Chris only takes those ventures and endeavours in which he can be an asset.  On top of that neither massive debt, lay off, nor anything else is able to stop him.

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YOUR TRUE SELF

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YOUR TRUE SELF

You're Born an Original, Don't Die a Copy – John Mason

Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job or your position at work? How about your height or weight? Education or maybe are? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail? Why did you do that?

 

The answer

I’m going to spare you some time. The short answer is because you were embarrassed. Deep inside you have made a choice that revealing the truth will endanger your want for acceptance. It clearly comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world who you are, you say you yourself ‘I don’t want people to think I’m a nerd’ and you pretend to be someone else.   

 

Conform to your standards

The same process plays out with mistakes that we’ve made, areas in which we’re weak and areas in which we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us. We conform to what other people would like us to be. The only standards you should conform to, are your standards

 

Don’t hide

But it doesn’t have to be the answer because there is another more empowering mindset. Instead of focusing on other people’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think, focus on whether or not you live up to your own values. If you really value your own opinions, don’t try to hide who you are no matter what anyone else thinks of it. 

 

Date

Have you ever had crush that you have never asked out? Maybe you have one right now? Focusing on other people’s perceptions of you will stop you dead in your tracks. After all, what if other people found out and laughed at you for getting turned down? But what if you instead focused on your own values like doing the courageous thing or being honest even when it’s uncomfortable? You would ask that person out. Now maybe you would go on a date, maybe you wouldn’t but either way you’d have lived up to your own values and no matter what anyone else said or did you could feel proud of yourself.

 

Living up to your values

The point is when you focus on living up to your own values you never have to feel embarrassed again. It doesn’t matter whether you trip with a tray full of dinners in front of 100 people (yes, I did that), get fired from a job or get blown off by a girl or a boy that you like. None of that staff is pleasant but you don’t need the double penalty of being embarrassed by those things. Your attempts to live up to your values are all that matter. If there is something to be fixed or corrected simply do that and move on.

 

Acceptance

You will not be able to change or control everything and as soon as you realize it, life will get a lot easier. If you have traits that embarrass you whether it’s your looks, your heights, your age, you have to accept it. Even though you might not like something about yourself own it. You will immediately feel relied when you accept yourself the way you are.

 

Not an excuse

Now this isn’t an excuse to simply give up on improving yourself in the name of self-acceptance. Some things are worth a moment of embarrassment because they remind us that we’re not living up to our values. In the case of maybe having fallen out of shape a moment of embarrassment is worth it to get you back to a healthy lifestyle. The point is to get clear on your values then live in line with them.

 

Be free

Let other people’s perception of you by just their opinion not yours. Now this doesn’t mean you ignore other people completely to the point of becoming a self-absorbed narcissist. But remember you won’t be able to please everybody. When you take feedback from others focus on doing the right thing rather than the thing that pleases them. Stop trying to control the opinions of strangers. Instead, figure out your values and live by them. Be yourself all the time regardless of the audience. Make mistakes, fail publicly, get laughed at you’ve got nothing to lose and as long as you’re trying to do the right thing, you’ve got no reason to ever feel bad about it. Own your screw-ups, your weirdness, your unpopular actions and you are free.

                

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FAILURE STORIES EP. 06 JIM CARREY

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FAILURE STORIES EP. 06 JIM CARREY

It is better to risk starving to death then surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what's left? – Jim Carey

How many of you know Jim Carrey, either from his stand-up comedy or from his many successful films, including Dumb and Dumber, Mask, Liar Liar, The Truman Show, or A Series of Unfortunate Events? When you think of the elements that played the most vital role in his success you would probably mention talent, hard work, luck, maybe patience. You are hundred percent right but there is one more thing you are missing. Bear with to learn what is the one ingredient 99 percent of us are missing.  

 

Adversity

You might think that anyone as talented as Jim must had a great home background and went to a great school with plenty of money to afford the best of training. Think again.

It’s hard to believe that in his early years at school Jim was quiet and not very sociable. Before he became the Jim we all know he had to fight hard at school around his learning disability and dyslexia. In this struggle, he developed a phenomenal memory which turned out to be vital skill later in his stand up and acting carrier. Although his dad tended to encourage his craziness, his mom was alarmed and often sent him to his room. This just gave him more time to practice in front of the mirror.

 

Discovery

Discovering that he could make friends by simply making people laugh, was his true turning point that would affect his entire future. Although we know how he turned out to be, the results of his discovery back then weren’t all that positive. At home, he thoroughly enjoyed making faces and mimicking in his mirror. In school, he was finishing his work first and then disrupting the rest of the class. That was his way of screaming for attention. So rather than discipline him for disrupting the class, one of his teachers asked him to put together an act and perform it for the class at the end of the school day, on the condition that he would do his work and not disturb the class. He thought this was a great idea and went along with it.

 

Sacrifice

His ambitions and courage were on display when he began to think beyond just entertaining his fellow students. At age ten he sent his resume’ to actress Carol Burnette, hoping to be discovered. As we know it took him another few years to crawl to the top.

Money was another hurdle. His family lived in a rough district with lots of low-rent townhouses. By the tenth grade he was trying to juggle eight-hour night shifts at the factory with school during the day. He was so exhausted that he couldn't understand what his teachers were talking about. At that time, he didn't have any friends at school and he feared that anyone getting close might find out about his embarrassing poverty. Not having enough time to study nor to nurture school friendships he felt that school was not getting him anywhere. He called it quits at 16.

 

Hardships

His family decided that their surroundings were taking them the wrong direction, so they packed up and moved to Canada with no job in sight. His parents and two siblings lived in a beat-up yellow Volkswagen camper van for a full eight months, parking in campgrounds. Feeling intellectually backward, inferior, embarrassed and experiencing hardships of poverty paved the way to his success by making him feel that he had to try harder than others. Lots of his creativity, as well as his remarkable willingness to take risks were born out of those moments desperation.   

 

Check

In 1983, Jim headed west to Hollywood where he starred playing small parts in television movies. He was another struggling young comic trying to make his way in Los Angeles. When he wasn’t doing anything in Hollywood, he was driving his old Toyota up to Mulholland Drive and sitting in his car. While sitting there looking at the city below and dreaming of his future, he wrote himself a check for $10 million, dated it Thanksgiving 1995, added the notation “for acting services rendered” and carried it in his wallet from that day forth. On top of that he was saying to himself “Everyone wants to work with me. I’m a really good actor. I have all kinds of great movie offers.” 

 

Affirmation

He would just repeat these things over and over, literally convincing himself that he had a couple of movies lined up. He’d drive down that hill, ready to take the world on, going, “Movie offers are out there for me, I just don’t hear them yet.” This total affirmation was his own way of dealing with stems from his family background.

 

Not so Dumb after all

His appearances in TV programs led to a main role on the hit comedy In Living Color. After many years, Jim’s optimism, tenacity and conviction eventually paid off. By 1995, after the huge box office success of Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, The Mask, and Dumb & Dumber, his wage for a picture went up to $20 million.

 

Every day

Jim Carrey used his hard times and set-backs to motivate him to try harder. He channeled his energy to making something special out of his life. But my biggest take from his story is that he was so convinced of his self-worth, he had a very specific goal and was envisioning it on a daily basis. It’s not only about having a plan, goal or dream, it’s even more about engaging with that vision on emotional level and working on it every day. Create a vision for your life but don’t freeze on just hoping it’s magically going to happen. Nothing will ever happen if you won’t start putting it to work.

 

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THE CUT OFF

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THE CUT OFF JANUARY 15

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right - Oprah Winfrey

January 15th

How is your new year coming out so far? How is your plan? How are your resolutions? Are you still working out? Are you still on a diet? Are still learning every day? I know it’s early. Yesterday was January 15th. But you know what that day mean, don’t you? January 15th is the Cut Off. Statistics show that 95 percent of the people that actually made a new year’s resolution, have already broken it by today. And that’s if you even made a resolution.

 

Beyond resolution

Now if you are exception to that I’m thrilled for you. I support you. Keep grinding, hustling and rocking it. But if you missed maybe I can help you not only recover but get way beyond new year’s resolution and make some real lasting changes in your life (100 days of change- article).

 

Why bother?

Most people don’t even make those new year’s resolutions, but why? They have been making them so many times, for so many years and they know they’re not going to follow through. After a while who want to disappoint themselves? Who wants to be upset with themselves? Why even bother to set a new standard? You know it’s going to be the same way as last years. If you are still reading this then obviously, you’re not that kind of person.

 

3 biggest mistakes

There are some common mistakes we are all making, once we try to change any given part of our life. I have been making all of repeatedly even after knowing what I really needed to do. Those mistakes are not any kind of a secret. You know that perfectly well but knowledge without execution is not worth a dime. Three biggest mistake:

 

1. Vision

First step for lasting change is that you’ve got to have a vision. A vision for what your really, truly want. Not about what you don’t want but what you are here to achieve. It can only work when it really excites you. The bottom line of our follow through comes down to our emotional intensity. In a different state of mind you are going to come up with much better and more exciting vision than you would while sitting little inebriated on your couch on January 1st. It has got compelling. It has got to be a gift. Give yourself a gift of a really wonderful vision.

 

2. Reasons

Along with this compelling vision you’ve got to have a strong enough reason that are going to help you follow through when it’s going to get tough. That’s one of the biggest change ingredients missing for most people. You can be sure that somewhere along the way, it’s going to get really tough. Challenges are inevitable. You will be tired, you might be stressed or sick, you won’t have time, outside circumstances might destroy your plans. Those are the moments when your reasons have to pull you. You don’t let the fear take you over when you have strong enough reasons. Reasons come first, answers come second.

If you have compelling vision and you have strong enough reasons, it will push you though tough times. Instead of collapsing, you will do things other people won’t do. Even if you get of target, you will get right back. Make the change. Make things happen.

 

3. Review

You have got to review it and feel it every day. Have you ever wanted something so badly, you had such hunger for it, that you couldn’t stop thinking about it? You need to wake that hunger once again. You need to develop emotional relationship between you and your desired outcome. Once you start to keep thinking about it, envisioning it, imagining it, feeling it, you will attract things and people to your life. It will become a major part of your focus, with emotions and intensity that you will notice anything that can get you there.

 

What happened?

What people do with new year’s resolutions?  They come up with something they kind of want. It’s not a compelling vision. They really don’t have strong enough reasons and they never review it until they’ve noticed that they’ve broke what they said they really wanted to happen. They didn’t really resolve.

 

Set yourself to win

When you really get clear on your reasons, your vision is compelling and you are reviewing it every day, the brain becomes incredibly acute at noticing anything that can get you move forward. And you find a way.

 

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