NO. DON’T. IT WON’T. IMPOSSIBLE.

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I love people to tell me NO. I love people to tell me DON’T. IT WON’T. It’s IMPOSSIBLE.

 

Rebel

I’m a natural rebel. I don’t take things as they are. I don’t take people’s opinions as facts. Don’t get me wrong, we’re all entitled to our opinions but we’re not entitled to our own facts. I won’t argue. When they say the word CAN’T, I hear the word CAN. I hear the opportunity ringing in my ears. When they say the word DON’T, all a hear is DO. The word WON'T is the word WON. And the word IMPOSSIBLE is the word POSSIBLE.

 

Self-belief

To try, to do, to fail and to succeed we need self-belief. Neither of those will happen without self-belief. Some people might not believe in you but you have to believe in you. You’ve got to be your biggest cheerleader. Take that to heart, never stop believing in yourself and support who you are becoming.  

 

Over and over

If you will be doing the old thing over and over again, in five years you will be about where you are today. The change will not come, the world will not turn upside down, you will not become happy or successful. Nothing will ever happen by itself if you will be just doing the same things.

 

Mountain

On the other hand, you can decide today that you’re not going to blame others anymore. No more making excuses. If you make that choice, every day becomes a day when you grow higher and stronger. Rock by rock you are becoming a mountain. You can choose to be a grain of sand on the beach or you can choose to become a rock. Your choice.

 

Learn

Learn to choose and don’t be afraid to lose. Learn from each of your failures but never forget about them. Learn not to make the same mistake ever again. Every time you lose at something you are one step closer to winning the next time. The difference between successful people and not successful people is people give up. People wake up every morning, they have doubts, they are afraid. They lose a minor race and they give up. The loose a battle and they give up entire journey. Giving up is easy. Choosing a way out is easy. Learning to lose is the hardest thing in life. Winning is easy. You win, you’re happy, you get a high five, your friends are happy. It’s your ability to take a loss, get up the next day, dust yourself off and keep going.

 

Poison

You have to have something that separates you from everybody else on Earth. Until you find out that something, you will be stressed and you will be struggling. Don’t let the words NO, IT CAN’T BE DONE, IMPOSSIBLE, DON’T, IT WON’T to poison your mind.

 

Decision

If there is no joy when you wake up in the morning, if you dread the sound of the alarm clock going off, if you feel stagnant, if you have the thought in your head that there has got to be more to life than this, you know what you should do? You should stop doing whatever you are doing. You will become exceptional the moment you make an exceptional decision.

 

Average

Look around you. What do you see? What you see is average everywhere. Average has become an epidemic. You don’t have people living up to their potential. You have people doing almost nothing. People retreating, backing up. People that are lazy. It’s time to be different. Now is the time to start again.

 

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LIFE AFTER HOLIDAY…

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing - Dale Carnegie

Is there even a life after it?

Most of us find it extremely hard to get back to our duties after being on holiday. In best cases scenario, we are only distracted and a lot slower for couple of days. Unfortunately, way to often it goes far beyond that. Many of us feel disappointed, frustrated, deceived, sometimes even scared or depressed. Sound heavy but it’s not a joke.

 

Fear of the unknown

We know it’s coming. We know we have to get back to work. We’ve done it many times. We know we’ll have to go through it again and we set our self that it’s going to be hard. Everybody around us says that it’s rough and nasty. And we fall for that. It takes us at least a week to get back to life and we seem to be everywhere but here and now.

 

Reminders of reality

We are constantly asked How fun it was? What did you do? Where have you been? We are constantly reminded we are back to worse reality. That our time there was a dream. This is what’s real and it sucks! But why does it suck? Do we really think so or is it someone else’s idea?

 

Why does it suck?

For me it’s a matter of mindset and our own decisions. If you will be only thinking that something great is over and now you have to go back to your grey, boring and unfulfilling job, don’t be surprised that you’re going to feel the same way. Let me just tell you that those are not your thoughts. This is a mindset that is everywhere around you and you just didn’t figure it could be any different. It can. What’s even more important you can do it too.

 

Reverse engineer

Reverse engineer your unconscious way thinking. Don’t think about all the things you hate about going back to work. Don’t think about waking up early. Don’t think about the backlog and overload of work you’re going to have. Don’t think about co-workers you can’t stand. Don’t think about those boring assignments. The list goes on and on.

 

How much do you love it?

Start thinking about all those things you love and like about your job. All the chances you have to work on yourself, your skills, your character, your resume and experience. Think that this job gave you money to go on those wonderful holidays. Now you can start saving for the next trip. Isn’t this exciting? It surely is for me. Think about all the colleagues you love to joke around or learn from. Remind yourself how much they are giving you and how much you’re giving in return. How great does it feel to get back home after a tough day at work? How much do you love to sleep at your own bad? This could be even a longer list if you choose to. Being on holiday for half of your life won’t get you any closer to your dreams. Not a bit. So, think about your purpose, your plan, your dream, your vision. In order to get there, you need to get back to work. There is no other way.

 

Find a way

Just to get one thing straight I’m trying to convince you to paint the grass green. If you hate your job and if it suffocates you, change it. Some of you are going to say easier said than done Mr. smarty pants. But you know what’s even harder for most of us? It’s making a decision that you’re going to find a better job. Not wishing. Not looking for a job. Not going sending applications and going for interviews. The crucial part is making the decision that you are already out and now you are going to find a better job. From now on it’s a matter of time. If it’s not possible today don’t cry about it. Work on yourself harder than you work on your job. Build your resume. Acquired news skills and sharpen those that you already have. Pay attention, learn, get inspired, model the masters in your field. Decide to find a way.  

 

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TINY HABIT. BIG CHANGE.

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Meaningful blink of an eye

Let’s start with a tiny question. Do you think 100 days is a long time? Well, it’s only a matter of perspective, right? If you are a child waiting for Christmas or your birthday, 100 days will feel like eternity. If you’ll find yourself only waiting for something that you have no control over you won’t be either present in the moment nor grateful for the ride. In this case it can turn out to be a total waste of time. On the other hand, having a clear plan, taking actions and appreciating your journey will help you be lot more grateful, present in moment and fulfilled with your progress. Once you’ll choose this path 100 days will be a very meaningful and magnificent blink of an eye.

 

The Ride

Going back to my first article on 100 day of Change in January this was not designed to be a challenge. It was something far more important than that. Challenge prompts assumptions that it is a onetime thing, one-night stand. It would suggest that I’m only after a specific outcome or result. Well, journey itself, the ride and the struggle was far more important. It’s not about what I’m going to accomplish, it’s about who I’m going to become on the way. Who we are right now and who will become in the future is a result of the tiny things we do every day. It’s not luck. It’s not given or taken. It’s YOU!

 

Little things

Those little tiny things became inseparable parts of my day and my life. Like my morning routines. Smiling in front of the mirror, thinking about 3 things I’m grateful for, doing pushups, visualizing my goals for the  day and for the next 10 years. This exercise give me sense of control over my life, a chance to think about my vision and mission but what’s most important it makes me appreciate my life and people who are in it.

 

Late (cold) addition

Well, there is one more morning routine I do every day for the last 3 weeks. Cold showers. Besides the clear physical benefits like instant wake up, releasing tension in the muscles, increasing immune system and increasing tolerance for temperature differences, it gives me something even more important. It’s a mental exercise. It’s an exercise of going way beyond your comfort zone every morning of every day. To make one thing clear the water does not get any hotter with time. It’s still freezing every morning.

 

(Too) Cozy

Once I take that cold shower in the morning I’m not only fresh and awake, I’m also ready to face whatever comes my way. Every day I’m getting better in going outside of my comfort zone, my warm and cozy coverlet. It stretches the reach of my zone every day. 

 

Dose of inspiration

In the last 100 days reading became another inseparable  part of my day. Either self-development, marketing, financial or business books give me a daily dose of inspiration and knowledge. It’s my most quiet and peaceful time in a day. After my day job and spending time with my wonderful family it serves as a reset time before going to my evening hustle and grind. We all need to relax during the day and reading turns out to be way faster, more effective and useful for me than watching movies.

 

Lesson

Besides developing smaller and bigger habits I have also learned many very meaningful lessons. Failures are integral part of going beyond and stretching your boundaries. I was not even thinking about avoiding failures because it would mean not trying at all. I was failing a lot and  then adjusting. It’s not something to be ashamed or pity about. Failures need to be parts of my success. 

 

Too much

For starters, my daily, weekly and monthly plan was total overpacked. Trying to do too many things and once is one of the biggest challenges I face very often. This time was no different but after a month I have adjusted my day to day plans not to drain myself. It’s great to be going in a full pace but you’ll never be able to sprint yourself through a marathon. Based on their results now and potential for the future I have cut off the half of my tiny daily activities from the list.

 

Am I really so different after 100 Days of Change?

I totally believe I am. Through tiny habits and adjustments done every I have made major changes in my life. I have control over my day, I’m a lot more grateful for what I have, I a lot happier and more fulfilled. On top of that I have never been so determined to go after my dreams, so peaceful with the world and in life with my life.

This wonderful experience is a genesis of an incredible journey. Don’t hesitate. Design and start your journey NOW!

 

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STAND UP STRAIGHT!

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How many times have you heard Stand up straight! when you were little? Do you remember being nagged for slouching at a family dinner? Although it might be very annoying, it’s not wrong at all.

 

Pressure

Your posture, the way you hold your body when you’re sitting or standing, is the base for every movement your body makes and can determine how well your body adapts to pressure. Pressure can mean number of different things. It can be carrying weight or sitting in an awkward position. But the biggest pressure we experience all day, every day, is gravity.

 

Poor posture

If your posture is crooked your muscles have to work harder to keep you upright and balanced. In result some muscles will become tight and inflexible. Others will become confined and lazy. Over time, these dysfunctional adaptations impair your body’s ability to deal with forces on it. Poor posture inflicts extra wear and tear on your joints and ligaments. Which increases the likelihood of injuries and chronical pains. Poor posture also make some organs for like your lungs, less efficient.

 

Havoc

Researchers have linked poor posture to tension headaches, back pain and sleep deprivation although it isn’t the exclusive cause of any of them. Posture can even influence your emotional state and your sensitivity to pain. Are you convinced now? Are those enough reasons to aim for good posture?

 

Unfavorable conditions

Sitting in an awkward position for a long time can promote poor posture, and so can using computers and mobile devices, which encourage you to look downward. Many studies suggest that on average our posture is getting worse. Current conditions of our environment at work, school or during transportation, are certainly not helping us. So, if you won’t start working on your posture it will only be getting worse and worse.

 

What does good posture look like?

When you look at the spine from the front or the back, all 33 vertebrae should appear stacked in a straight line. From the side, the spine should have three curves: one at your neck, on at your shoulders and one at the small of your back. These curves help us stay upright and absorb some of the stress for activities like walking and jumping.

 

Efficiency

Symmetric straight posture keeps your center of gravity directly over base of your support, which allows you to move efficiently with the least amount of fatigue and muscle strain. If you’re sitting, your neck should be vertical, not tilted forward. Your shoulders should be relaxed with your arms close to your trunk. Your knees should be at the right angle with your feet flat on the floor.

 

How to start?

But what if your posture isn’t that great? Identify what good posture look like and check what you need to fix. There are many great ways to improve your posture, like yoga, training your core muscles or stretches. Chose what fits you best. But remember that first you need to be conscious of your own body.

 

Body, Brain, Energy

It’s also not enough to just have a good posture. Keeping your muscle and joints moving is extremely important. In fact, being stationary for a long period with good posture can be worse than regular movement with bad posture. When you do move, move smartly. If you sit a lot, get up and move around on occasion, and be sure to exercise. Using your muscles will keep them strong enough to support you effectively, on top of all the other benefits to your joints, bones, brain and heart and the level of your energy. You really should Stand up straight!

 

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LISTENING IS EXHAUSTING

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply” -  Stephen R. Covey

Most of us believe that anxiety impacts only the person giving the speech or presentation. Studies done by dr. Paul King show that listeners feel anxiety as well. During his research a group of college students were told that they would be asked question after a presentation they were about to listen. The level of their state of anxiety were going up with presentation time running out. But when they took the test it dropped off immediately.  

 

Backlog

Dr. King convince us that, the accumulation of information results in “cognitive backlog”. More and more information is getting stuck what means that it cannot be processed and out brain is not able to create necessary connection.  In this case it’s impossible for us to asses, store or recall the information.  As backlog gets bigger, internal pressure rises quickly and we are on a highway to losing all that information.  Information burden increases along with a listener’s anxiety. It can even result in getting frustrated or angry.

 

Programmed

We all know that thinking and speaking are very physically demanding activities. Unfortunately, right from the beginning of our educational journey everybody around us underestimate listening. No surprise we end up getting programmed the same way.  

 

Listening

Effective listening is exhausting and demanding as well. It’s hard work. The heart rate quickens, respiration increases, and your body temperature rises. Just like a stress response, it can be physically and psychologically draining. What’s more we are exposed to it for extensive periods of time. Hours of presentations or meeting. Whole days at school. You name it.

 

First day at work

Do you remember your first day at a new job? Were you listening to presentations or onboarding for a whole day? Couple days? Or maybe you went straight to your new desk and we were trained by a new collage? How did you feel after the day was over? Were you energized, relaxed or ready to go get a beer with your friends? Very unlikely.

 

Not immediate and not easy

It’s very likely that you felt exhausted. Drained. You needed some quiet time. That’s because you have just experienced cognitive backlog. You have received some many new information that it got stuck in a line. It needed to be evaluated, labeled and stored. And that takes a lot of time. And lot of energy. It’s a process. Don’t expect it to be immediate and easy.

 

I told you that yesterday!

I perfectly remember how tired I was after first couple days in my every new job. So many new things, skills, people, places. Exhausting. What about next morning? Do you remember a situation when you were asked to recall something from a previous day? I told you that yesterday, right? – have you ever heard that? Well, it’s probably because of the cognitive backlog.  The information didn’t stand a chance to get where it supposed to get.

 

More is not better

Think about that when you will be teaching your new college at work or when you will get giving another presentation. Or when you will be teaching your kid. More is not always better.  It’s better to study content on two or three occasions for short period of time instead of spending entire day or evening and getting choked by that information.

 

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GOOD

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There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so - William Shakespeare

When things are going, bad there’s going to be some good that’s going to come out of it. Project got cancelled. Good we can focus on another one. Didn’t get the new equipment. Good we can keep it simple. Didn’t get promoted. Good, more time to get better. Didn’t get funded. Good we own more of the company. Didn’t get the job I wanted. Good I can get more experienced and build a better resume. Got injured, sprained my ankle. Good I’m going to get a break from training. Unexpected problems. Good I have the opportunity to figure out a solution. That’s it.

 

Get up and reload

When things are going bad don’t get all bombed out. Don’t get startled. Don’t get frustrated. No. Just look at the issue and say good. Take that issue. Take that problem and make it something good. Bring that attitude. Go forward. If you can say the word good when things are going bad, guess what? It means you are still alive. It means you are still breathing. If you are still breathing, you still have some fight left in you. So, get up, dust off, reload, calibrate, reengaged and go on an attack. It’s about as good as it gets. 

 

Storm

Embrace your life. It’s pain. It’s sorrow. It’s adversity. You have to realize that there’s going to bad days, dark days but you have to embrace because that pain what makes you stronger. Success is not measured on the days when the sun shines. Success is measured on a dark, stormy, cloudy days and if you can’t absorb failure you will never meet success. Storm is when you show who you really are.

 

Rock bottom

One of the best things that can happen to anyone is hitting rock bottom. The reason why it’s so important is because it tells you that nothing comes easy. When you hit rock bottom you learn a lot about yourself. You have a great chance to find out what you are really made of. How you respond to it will tell a lot about yourself. Failure is what makes you strong.

 

Run

Run. You should run because you shouldn’t live in darkness. If you keep on running you’re going to see that light. In the beginning, it’s going to look like a little circle. That’s when things start to work out a little bit. As you keep going forward that little circle just gets bigger and bigger. Don’t let it break you and keep on running.

 

Bounce back

If we don’t learn how to master the breaking point we may have many ventures but we won’t accrue massive success in any area. Because every time you will run to a breaking point you will give up and quit. You will back away and run. You will say this is too hard, this is too emotional, this is too stressful and you will back away. You cannot be a successful until you learn how to go through failures, run through obstacles and bounce back from rock bottom.

 

Discipline

Where does discipline comes from? It comes from within. It’s an internal force. What you are looking for, what you are talking about, what you need is self-discipline. Self-discipline are the very term implies comes from the self, it comes from you. It comes when you make a decision to be discipline. When you make a decision to be better. When you make a decision to do more and to be more. Self-discipline comes when you decide that you are going to make a mark on the world and to make you better, stronger, smarter, faster, and healthier.

 

Gift

What’s even more important it will make you free. Every breath that we take is a gift. It’s a sacred gift. Every day we have, every sunrise, every thought, every smile and every laugh is a gift. I will treasure that gift of life. I will not let it waste. Not one second of it. I will cherish every moment of it. I will live it.

 

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TIME FOR GROWTH

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TIME FOR GROWTH

It's not up to you how you fall. It's up to you how far you let yourself fall and how long it takes you to get back up and stand on your own two feet.

It’s always only the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, you must know it. The greatness comes not when the things go always good for you but the greatness comes when you are really tested. When you take some knocks, some disappointments, when sadness comes. Because only if you’ve been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain – Richard Nixon

Signal for growth

Always give your best. Never get discouraged. Never be petty. Always remember. We have to realize that time of stress and also the times that are signals for growth. If we use adversity properly we can grow through adversity. These things happen to you and you think you’ve been dealt a terrible hand or had bad luck and you just go with it. You start improvising. Suddenly you realize you’ve stumbled on one of the best things that ever happened to you. One of the biggest disabilities we have as human beings is disbelief.

 

Lobster

I will tell you a story about lobsters. Lobster are soft bushy animal that lives inside of a shell. That sell does not expend. As the lobster grows that shell becomes very confining. Lobster feels self under pressure and uncomfortable. Casts of the shell and proceeds into a new one. And eventually that shell also becomes very uncomfortable as it grows. The lobster repeats this numerous times. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. Now if lobsters have doctors they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, it goes to the doctor, gets a Valium or Percocet and feels fine.

 

Vulnerable

It will never get of his shell.  In order for the lobster to grow, at various stages of its life, it must molt. In other words, it has to get rid of its old shell and start to form a new one. Well for about 20-30 minutes the lobster is vulnerable whilst molting, it essentially becomes a piece of meat for other aquatic creatures on the prowl. The Lobster knows this, and has taken certain precautions to try to stop them from being as vulnerable such as forming a thin skin before it molts, and changing color. However, for the most part it knows that in order to grow larger it must get over its fear of being vulnerable and just shed its old shell.

 

Cut it off

Sometimes you’ve got to cut a little piece of yourself off, no matter how much it hurts in order to grow, in order to move on. Cut your fear off. Don’t have mercy for it. Don’t be afraid. Say you’re going to do something. Say it once. Put it out there for the world to see and go out and do it.

 

Ups and downs

You will have good days and you will have bad days but you will always learn something more or something new and you will learn more overall on bad days then good days. You will make mistakes along the way. You will fall down. I have. Many times. But what we do after we fall is what really counts.

 

Don’t shy away

Most of us have been on the end of many defeats in our life and we rose back. Don’t shy away from it. Don’t make excuses for it. Assess it and come back. If you can see it in your mind and you have courage to speak it. It will happen.

 

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MINDFULNESS

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Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most - Buddha

It’s been a week since I have attended mindfulness workshop and I want to share my feelings with you. 

 

Unbeliever

Although mindfulness was quite familiar to me I came to the meeting only because my dear friend Ania was a speaker and coach. In case you missed it, let me tell you few words about Ania. Well, I feel that Ania pushed a countdown button of change in my life. We’ve worked together along one of my best friend Marcin, side by side for almost 4 years, giving each other lots of needed support. We went through many similar ups and down. Mostly downs. But being there with those two was the only reason why it was remotely bearable. Sometimes even fun.  All those daily talks with her sow the seed of confidence and change in me. At that time, I was almost not susceptible to any change.  Think of someone you know who is that extremely suborn unbeliever. And that was me. Ania didn’t tell me to change. She didn’t try to change me. But along my wonderful wife and Tony Robbins, they inspired the change and invited it to my life. It’s a lot to be grateful for.

 

Notification

When I saw facebook notification that Ania will be running a Mindfulness Coaching workshop I knew I will be there. Big shout out to Bogus, incredible character who was the host of this wonderful experience.

 

State

I understood mindfulness as a state of maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. A state demanding self-acceptance, paying attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them. Without thinking if we are “right” or “wrong”. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than recalling the past or imagining the future.

 

Why Practice Mindfulness?

Studies have shown that practicing mindfulness, even for just a few weeks, can bring a variety of physical, psychological, and social benefits. Along many different benefits here are just a few most important in my opinion:

  1. Physical. Studies show that after just eight weeks of training, practicing mindfulness meditation boosts our immune system’s ability to fight off illness.
  2. Emotional. Mindfulness increases positive emotions and empathy while reducing negative emotions and stress.
  3. Abilities. Mindfulness increases our ability to learn and memorize.
  4. Focus. Mindfulness helps us keeping focus. We acquire great ability to tune out distractions.
  5. Happiness. That’s the most important benefit in my book. On top of all benefits mentioned above mindfulness fosters compassion, empathy and altruism. It directly affects our mental state, our optimism and level of relaxation. Tell me isn’t that all we need for life?

 

How to get mindful?

Although mindfulness can be practiced through formal meditation, that’s not the only way.

  1. Breathing. Pay close attention to your breathing, especially when intense emotions rise.
  2. Senses. Sharpen your senses by really noticing sounds, smells and sights that usually slip away.
  3. Thoughts. Quite often our thoughts are running around like a small puppy. Be forgiving to that puppy. Recognize that your thoughts and emotions but don’t let them play their own game.

 

Questions

As many of you know I’m big believer in questions (Power of questions).  By asking ourselves proper set of questions we can start being mindful and present in everyday life. Next time your mood changes and something emotional happens ask yourself following questions:  

  1. What is going inside of my body?
  2. What am I thinking about when my mood changes?
  3. What is happening inside my body? Is my heart beating faster? Do my muscles get tensed? How about my facial expressions?
  4. How do I feel in that moment? What emotions do I feel?
  5. How other people feel in that same moment?

Give mindfulness a chance and you won’t regret it. There is really nothing to lose but a full life to win.

Mindfulness is all I have been about last two years without even knowing it. Thank you Ania and Bogus!

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FAILURE STORIES EP. 07 CHRIS SACCA

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Chris Sacca is as an extremely successful venture capitalist, with stakes in Instagram, Kickstarter, Uber, Twitter, and dozens of other prominent start-ups like Stripe, Lookout and WordPress. He’s widely known from being ranked third on Forbes annual Midas List of tech’s 100 top investors as well as being a recurrent quest on Shark Tank. What is not so familiar is how his incredible journey started. Investing his student loans, making tones of money, losing a lot more and ending up with 4 million in debt.

 

Student loans

Although Chris succeeded in school his entire life, he had no idea what should be the purpose of his life. He studied advanced mathematics and was on the honor roll for 12 straight marking periods.  By 11th grade he felt burned out and wanted to pursue a college degree where there would be no math.  Chris took the natural step of going to law school. He quickly realized that going to classes is entirely optional and he can use that time start his own company thanks to government money from his student loan checks.

 

Hot hand

The company quickly folded and Chris used the money that was left to hit the stock market.  He invested in several of the hottest tech stocks of the decade. Not only he was successfully investing his student loans, but he leveraged the gaps he found in the terms and conditions of day trading platforms. Chris turned tens of thousands of dollars for his student loans into $12 million by 2000.

 

Bubble burst

At that point, being still a very young and inexperienced investor Chris never thought of cashing out some of his virtual money. Instead, with very little diversification, he continued to double down. You can probably guess what happened next. When the stock market crashed several of Chris’ stocks quickly plummeted and very quickly he found his paper net worth had fallen to $2 million. Feeling disappointed and overwhelmed he decided to take a break, clear his mind and walk away from the stock market for several weeks.

 

Debt

While he was travelling to Austria the leftovers of his portfolio dived even harder. An informal remark by Bill Clinton and Tony Blair about joint policy in the notion of patents around genetic technology, when viral in the news.  As the companies from this industry were the core of Chris’s portfolio, there were not much left this time. Playing this dangerous game and not giving himself the extent of the margin in his investments, Chris immediately wind up $4 million in debt with no means of paying it back.

 

Adult sites

Still keeping his nerves, he refused to declare bankruptcy and negotiated a workout plan with his creditors which reduced his total debt to $2.125 million. Over the course of next five years Chris completed law school, and got his hustle on. He worked for one of Silicon Valley law firm, but got fired after 13 months. Next step was opening up his own consultancy. This journey took him through writing terms and conditions for online adult sites and a variety of other less than impressive tasks. Remarkably, he managed to pay down the two-plus million dollars in debt at some point in 2005.

 

Angel

For the next four years Chris worked at Google. After that started his first angel investments in PhotoBucket and Twitter, for which he is much better known. What few realize, however is that his success today very nearly didn’t happen. It was his tenacity and refusal to quit, even when reckless at times, that paved his road to becoming one of the most respected and successful angels in Silicon Valley.

 

How?

Chris didn't study business or engineering, doesn't know how to program a computer or worked at a big venture firm. So how did he pulled it off? He does it by buddying up with well-chosen founders and very often serves as a mentor. It seems like he could take on everything but Chris only takes those ventures and endeavours in which he can be an asset.  On top of that neither massive debt, lay off, nor anything else is able to stop him.

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YOUR TRUE SELF

You're Born an Original, Don't Die a Copy – John Mason

Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job or your position at work? How about your height or weight? Education or maybe are? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail? Why did you do that?

 

The answer

I’m going to spare you some time. The short answer is because you were embarrassed. Deep inside you have made a choice that revealing the truth will endanger your want for acceptance. It clearly comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world who you are, you say you yourself ‘I don’t want people to think I’m a nerd’ and you pretend to be someone else.   

 

Conform to your standards

The same process plays out with mistakes that we’ve made, areas in which we’re weak and areas in which we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us. We conform to what other people would like us to be. The only standards you should conform to, are your standards

 

Don’t hide

But it doesn’t have to be the answer because there is another more empowering mindset. Instead of focusing on other people’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think, focus on whether or not you live up to your own values. If you really value your own opinions, don’t try to hide who you are no matter what anyone else thinks of it. 

 

Date

Have you ever had crush that you have never asked out? Maybe you have one right now? Focusing on other people’s perceptions of you will stop you dead in your tracks. After all, what if other people found out and laughed at you for getting turned down? But what if you instead focused on your own values like doing the courageous thing or being honest even when it’s uncomfortable? You would ask that person out. Now maybe you would go on a date, maybe you wouldn’t but either way you’d have lived up to your own values and no matter what anyone else said or did you could feel proud of yourself.

 

Living up to your values

The point is when you focus on living up to your own values you never have to feel embarrassed again. It doesn’t matter whether you trip with a tray full of dinners in front of 100 people (yes, I did that), get fired from a job or get blown off by a girl or a boy that you like. None of that staff is pleasant but you don’t need the double penalty of being embarrassed by those things. Your attempts to live up to your values are all that matter. If there is something to be fixed or corrected simply do that and move on.

 

Acceptance

You will not be able to change or control everything and as soon as you realize it, life will get a lot easier. If you have traits that embarrass you whether it’s your looks, your heights, your age, you have to accept it. Even though you might not like something about yourself own it. You will immediately feel relied when you accept yourself the way you are.

 

Not an excuse

Now this isn’t an excuse to simply give up on improving yourself in the name of self-acceptance. Some things are worth a moment of embarrassment because they remind us that we’re not living up to our values. In the case of maybe having fallen out of shape a moment of embarrassment is worth it to get you back to a healthy lifestyle. The point is to get clear on your values then live in line with them.

 

Be free

Let other people’s perception of you by just their opinion not yours. Now this doesn’t mean you ignore other people completely to the point of becoming a self-absorbed narcissist. But remember you won’t be able to please everybody. When you take feedback from others focus on doing the right thing rather than the thing that pleases them. Stop trying to control the opinions of strangers. Instead, figure out your values and live by them. Be yourself all the time regardless of the audience. Make mistakes, fail publicly, get laughed at you’ve got nothing to lose and as long as you’re trying to do the right thing, you’ve got no reason to ever feel bad about it. Own your screw-ups, your weirdness, your unpopular actions and you are free.

                

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