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POWER OF QUESTIONS? PART 1 START FROM YOURSELF

OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple – Dr. Seuss

I have an impression that many of us have lost the ability to ask question. Did we ever have it? Sure we did. Let’s go back to the times when you were a little kid. You were asking so many questions that I bet that there was moment when your parents could stand it anymore. But they did. You were a little broken record and you did it totally on purpose. Surprised? Let me tell you what you were doing. You were asking the same question 20 or 30 times looking for a different answer. Until you found one that satisfied you, you wouldn’t stop asking. Try to think how annoying that was. We need to be annoying again. We have let it vanish too easily.  

 

Question yourself

 The first person you need to ask questions is yourself. Ask yourself the same question 20 times? I bet you are going to come up with better answers. When was the last time when you asked yourself a question What do I want? What’s my outcome? What’s my true KPI? What’s the result I am after? Not what should you do. Activity may change but stick to your outcome. Focus on your result. The clearer you are about your goal the faster you will achieve it. Think about the outcomes, not activities.  You will find that you can eliminate some of your activities because they are not getting you closer to achieving your desired outcome.

 

Going into details

In order to see clearly what you are truly after you need to constantly ask yourself those question.  What are my most important outcomes for this week? What do I want to accomplish today? Be as clear and specific as possible. What are the outcomes for this meeting? Do we want our company to be focused on the outcomes or activities? What do you want to change in your life? What are you really missing in life? What do you want to accomplish? What is your goal? Do you even know it? How can you hit target you cannot see? How can you reach a goal you do not have?

 

Why?

Are you going to work, train or grind tomorrow because that’s what you did yesterday?  If that’s your reason, you will not get any closer to the vision you do not have.  We have all the means to stop it. Break this pattern We live in. The first step to do is to know your WHY. You really need to know Why. Why do you want to do all those things? What do you expect when you reach that goal? What it is going to change?

 

Lord of your own fire

We all have or used to have fire inside of us. You need to light that fire again. To re-fire your desire first you need to ask certain questions.  What burns in your heart? What is your motive for action? What drives your life?

Those are a few very important questions you need to ask yourself in the beginning. Without knowing that you might achieve your goals and still be unhappy with the result because you didn’t know Why exactly did you wanted this. Does it make any sense thus far?

 

Get your priorities in order

The simplest as well as one of the most effective ways to evaluate and decide on your priorities, is to ask yourself a question: How this will affect you a week from now, a month from now, a year from now? Will this action cause a significant change? Does this get you closer to your vision?  There will always be something to clean at the house, something you need to do, some friends you haven’t seen for months. There will always be something. Don’t kid yourself.

 

Experts in other people

You probably think that it sounds easier, then it actually is. How do I add value to my life and to the life of others? First, you need to know yourself. Simple, right? Yes, it’s simple but most of us don’t know ourselves too well. We tend to study, discover, learn and get to know our friends, colleagues, our boss, but not ourselves. We look at them, we assess them, quite often judge their actions and behaviors, and in the end we evaluate their results. We have become experts at Them. Especially with our friends and bosses. He should act like that. He should say it in more convincing matter. She is such a week leader. She has got no skills. What about you? How well do you know yourself? How much attention do you pay to your thoughts, your behaviors, your results? Is that enough? Do you think you should know yourself better? I know I should.

 

Right questions add value

Ok, how to do? Start from asking yourself better questions and you will understand yourself a lot better.  Ask yourself 4 questions that will allow you to get to know you better:

  1. Your goals and dreams. What are your goals, your dreams, your vision? What do you want to achieve? What’s your expected outcome?
  2. People. Who are you trying to impact? Who and how needs to be involved in this endeavor? What do they want? Who would be affected by your actions? Who would be influenced?  Try to understand the Who of any given situation.
  3. Do you know how to do it? Do you have skills, knowledge and resources? What you can do and what you cannot do? What do you need to learn? Where do you need to grow?
  4. Measurement. How things are going to be measured? How do you know if you’ve reached your goal? How do you know if you are progressing? What is your Key Performance Indicator? How are you going to check that?  How does success look like for you?

 

I know that’s a lot of questions to ask yourself but believe me it’s totally worth it. Be persistent, be specific and invest in yourself.

 

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