NO. DON’T. IT WON’T. IMPOSSIBLE.

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I love people to tell me NO. I love people to tell me DON’T. IT WON’T. It’s IMPOSSIBLE.

 

Rebel

I’m a natural rebel. I don’t take things as they are. I don’t take people’s opinions as facts. Don’t get me wrong, we’re all entitled to our opinions but we’re not entitled to our own facts. I won’t argue. When they say the word CAN’T, I hear the word CAN. I hear the opportunity ringing in my ears. When they say the word DON’T, all a hear is DO. The word WON'T is the word WON. And the word IMPOSSIBLE is the word POSSIBLE.

 

Self-belief

To try, to do, to fail and to succeed we need self-belief. Neither of those will happen without self-belief. Some people might not believe in you but you have to believe in you. You’ve got to be your biggest cheerleader. Take that to heart, never stop believing in yourself and support who you are becoming.  

 

Over and over

If you will be doing the old thing over and over again, in five years you will be about where you are today. The change will not come, the world will not turn upside down, you will not become happy or successful. Nothing will ever happen by itself if you will be just doing the same things.

 

Mountain

On the other hand, you can decide today that you’re not going to blame others anymore. No more making excuses. If you make that choice, every day becomes a day when you grow higher and stronger. Rock by rock you are becoming a mountain. You can choose to be a grain of sand on the beach or you can choose to become a rock. Your choice.

 

Learn

Learn to choose and don’t be afraid to lose. Learn from each of your failures but never forget about them. Learn not to make the same mistake ever again. Every time you lose at something you are one step closer to winning the next time. The difference between successful people and not successful people is people give up. People wake up every morning, they have doubts, they are afraid. They lose a minor race and they give up. The loose a battle and they give up entire journey. Giving up is easy. Choosing a way out is easy. Learning to lose is the hardest thing in life. Winning is easy. You win, you’re happy, you get a high five, your friends are happy. It’s your ability to take a loss, get up the next day, dust yourself off and keep going.

 

Poison

You have to have something that separates you from everybody else on Earth. Until you find out that something, you will be stressed and you will be struggling. Don’t let the words NO, IT CAN’T BE DONE, IMPOSSIBLE, DON’T, IT WON’T to poison your mind.

 

Decision

If there is no joy when you wake up in the morning, if you dread the sound of the alarm clock going off, if you feel stagnant, if you have the thought in your head that there has got to be more to life than this, you know what you should do? You should stop doing whatever you are doing. You will become exceptional the moment you make an exceptional decision.

 

Average

Look around you. What do you see? What you see is average everywhere. Average has become an epidemic. You don’t have people living up to their potential. You have people doing almost nothing. People retreating, backing up. People that are lazy. It’s time to be different. Now is the time to start again.

 

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LIMITING BELIEFS

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LIMITING BELIEFS

Beliefs have power to create and the power to destroy – Tony Robbins

From the time we are born we all have and experience different disadvantages. What’s your disadvantage? Are you dyslectic? Are you from a small town? Are you an immigrant?  Did you have a tough childhood? Have you been raised in a broken family? Are you short? Are your tall? Are you’re a woman? Maybe a man? Is your race different? Religion? You are unique and there’s no doubt about that but guess what? We all have many disadvantages.  What you see as a blessing can be disadvantage do someone else.  

 

Playing the wrong cards

Why are we worrying such much about our disadvantages? Why are we so focused on problems, on our limiting beliefs? I don’t have what it takes. I don’t have time, skills, knowledge, money, self-confidence to do it? I’m not strong enough. I’m not disciplined enough. I don’t deserve it.  Why do we put so much emphasis on mental weakness, instead of mental strength? We constantly focus on what’s wrong with our life. Even at work we are conditioned to identify our weakness and find solutions, so we can get better with our weakness. Why we are playing the wrong cards?

 

Average

From the time you are little kids, you are told to work on your weakness and to be good all around. Your parents expect you to be good in every class. The biggest value to your parents, teachers, schools and even society is your grade point average. Average of your grades! Have you ever thought about it? What world are we really trying to build?  Do we really want to live in world of mediocre people? Average. Mediocre. Medium. Blend. Vanilla. Is that it?     

 

Remarkable

You know what? The player who’s good all-around would never be a star. A star is player who’s remarkable at this on, two or four things but really sucks at the rest. If you want to be remarkable at anything you need to shine. Why don’t you bet on your uniqueness? Why don’t you bet on our strengths, your passions? It’s not even your limiting beliefs, it’s your limiting vision of who you are and what you are capable of. ­­We are all remarkable most of us don’t know it just yet. 

 

Focus

You don’t just change your limiting beliefs. You have to change your entire focus of what you’re looking at. In most cases your focus is send straight to your limiting things instead of those empowering capabilities. How much time do you focus on your weakness and worries, determines your destiny. How much attention do you give to your capabilities, opportunities, your vision? Is it enough?

 

Frames

Removing your limiting beliefs is a great start but that’s only the first step. You’re going to need a lot more than that. What’s going to help you is changing your focus on something bigger and greater about yourself. Change your dominant frame and focus. If you truly want to initiate change you can start by paying attention to three frames below. Do it at least for a week. Give it a go. You will be surprised how different your life can be right away. 

Three frames:

1. Greatness.

What if you take your focus from all your weakness and your insecurities, that you always had, and put your attention on your Greatness. Next time a big problem or issue come up, don’t focus on how big or hard it’s going to be to overcome it and focus on how much capabilities and strengths you already have to solve it. Give more relative weight and duration to what you would do on your best performance, your best day, best meeting, best game, best workout. Focus on the best you can be right now.

What’s magnificent about you? What are you capable of? Expose your greatness. Expose your best side.

 

2. Aliveness.

Choose to focus on your aliveness. Be fully alive and present in the moment. Feel more grateful for your life. Allow yourself to feel alive. Don’t wait to be energetic, don’t look for it, generate it. The level of your vital energy depend only on you. Don’t be just a spectator to your life, be a leading star instead.

 

3. Love.

What if you start loving your life? How would it be to act from the feeling of love? Give yourself permission to love more fully again.

Almost all of us had broken heart once in our lifetime. No surprise, I had a very broken heart myself. Some of us deal with this better, than others. I was absolutely and entirely in the second group.

 

Broken life

When my finance at the time, now wife, and I broke off with each other after 6-years, I was crushed. Quite quickly I have realized that it was almost only my fault, but I couldn’t let it go. I was fighting for it. The more I tried to fixed it, the more I was pushing her away. She moved to a different city. Although we didn’t have any contact with each other for a long time, I still could get myself together.  My world was closing on me. Fast. In addition to my broken heart, I couldn’t find a full time job. I was working as intern in Tax Office, in a convenience store during the summer, then in autumn and winter on construction site repairing and renovating a bridges.

 

Emotional blockade

For that whole year I was not allowing myself to love any part of my life. All my emotions were instantly blocked at the gate. It took me over a year to heal up my mental wounds and open up for a new relationship. Thanks to my very close friend Marcin, I found new passion in working out. I started to love my life again and I was ready to love again. I was getting back my self-confidence. For many of you it takes even longer and I know it’s hard but you want to speed-up the healing process. There in so much about your life that’s worth loving and living for. You can always start from loving the smallest things like encounters with your friends, family, your job or at least certain parts of it. Going out, being active, growing or progressing in something and working on yourself. Allow yourself to love your life again.

 

Dominant frame

Let’s turn your dominant frame to how magnificent and remarkable you really are. Let’s turn focus and frame from your past to your future. All our psychological journeys to the past only benefits us if they bring us back to this moment and allow us to make better decisions and choices. Greatness, aliveness and love are in you, why not focus on them?  

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