LIFE AFTER HOLIDAY…

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing - Dale Carnegie

Is there even a life after it?

Most of us find it extremely hard to get back to our duties after being on holiday. In best cases scenario, we are only distracted and a lot slower for couple of days. Unfortunately, way to often it goes far beyond that. Many of us feel disappointed, frustrated, deceived, sometimes even scared or depressed. Sound heavy but it’s not a joke.

 

Fear of the unknown

We know it’s coming. We know we have to get back to work. We’ve done it many times. We know we’ll have to go through it again and we set our self that it’s going to be hard. Everybody around us says that it’s rough and nasty. And we fall for that. It takes us at least a week to get back to life and we seem to be everywhere but here and now.

 

Reminders of reality

We are constantly asked How fun it was? What did you do? Where have you been? We are constantly reminded we are back to worse reality. That our time there was a dream. This is what’s real and it sucks! But why does it suck? Do we really think so or is it someone else’s idea?

 

Why does it suck?

For me it’s a matter of mindset and our own decisions. If you will be only thinking that something great is over and now you have to go back to your grey, boring and unfulfilling job, don’t be surprised that you’re going to feel the same way. Let me just tell you that those are not your thoughts. This is a mindset that is everywhere around you and you just didn’t figure it could be any different. It can. What’s even more important you can do it too.

 

Reverse engineer

Reverse engineer your unconscious way thinking. Don’t think about all the things you hate about going back to work. Don’t think about waking up early. Don’t think about the backlog and overload of work you’re going to have. Don’t think about co-workers you can’t stand. Don’t think about those boring assignments. The list goes on and on.

 

How much do you love it?

Start thinking about all those things you love and like about your job. All the chances you have to work on yourself, your skills, your character, your resume and experience. Think that this job gave you money to go on those wonderful holidays. Now you can start saving for the next trip. Isn’t this exciting? It surely is for me. Think about all the colleagues you love to joke around or learn from. Remind yourself how much they are giving you and how much you’re giving in return. How great does it feel to get back home after a tough day at work? How much do you love to sleep at your own bad? This could be even a longer list if you choose to. Being on holiday for half of your life won’t get you any closer to your dreams. Not a bit. So, think about your purpose, your plan, your dream, your vision. In order to get there, you need to get back to work. There is no other way.

 

Find a way

Just to get one thing straight I’m trying to convince you to paint the grass green. If you hate your job and if it suffocates you, change it. Some of you are going to say easier said than done Mr. smarty pants. But you know what’s even harder for most of us? It’s making a decision that you’re going to find a better job. Not wishing. Not looking for a job. Not going sending applications and going for interviews. The crucial part is making the decision that you are already out and now you are going to find a better job. From now on it’s a matter of time. If it’s not possible today don’t cry about it. Work on yourself harder than you work on your job. Build your resume. Acquired news skills and sharpen those that you already have. Pay attention, learn, get inspired, model the masters in your field. Decide to find a way.  

 

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GOOD

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There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so - William Shakespeare

When things are going, bad there’s going to be some good that’s going to come out of it. Project got cancelled. Good we can focus on another one. Didn’t get the new equipment. Good we can keep it simple. Didn’t get promoted. Good, more time to get better. Didn’t get funded. Good we own more of the company. Didn’t get the job I wanted. Good I can get more experienced and build a better resume. Got injured, sprained my ankle. Good I’m going to get a break from training. Unexpected problems. Good I have the opportunity to figure out a solution. That’s it.

 

Get up and reload

When things are going bad don’t get all bombed out. Don’t get startled. Don’t get frustrated. No. Just look at the issue and say good. Take that issue. Take that problem and make it something good. Bring that attitude. Go forward. If you can say the word good when things are going bad, guess what? It means you are still alive. It means you are still breathing. If you are still breathing, you still have some fight left in you. So, get up, dust off, reload, calibrate, reengaged and go on an attack. It’s about as good as it gets. 

 

Storm

Embrace your life. It’s pain. It’s sorrow. It’s adversity. You have to realize that there’s going to bad days, dark days but you have to embrace because that pain what makes you stronger. Success is not measured on the days when the sun shines. Success is measured on a dark, stormy, cloudy days and if you can’t absorb failure you will never meet success. Storm is when you show who you really are.

 

Rock bottom

One of the best things that can happen to anyone is hitting rock bottom. The reason why it’s so important is because it tells you that nothing comes easy. When you hit rock bottom you learn a lot about yourself. You have a great chance to find out what you are really made of. How you respond to it will tell a lot about yourself. Failure is what makes you strong.

 

Run

Run. You should run because you shouldn’t live in darkness. If you keep on running you’re going to see that light. In the beginning, it’s going to look like a little circle. That’s when things start to work out a little bit. As you keep going forward that little circle just gets bigger and bigger. Don’t let it break you and keep on running.

 

Bounce back

If we don’t learn how to master the breaking point we may have many ventures but we won’t accrue massive success in any area. Because every time you will run to a breaking point you will give up and quit. You will back away and run. You will say this is too hard, this is too emotional, this is too stressful and you will back away. You cannot be a successful until you learn how to go through failures, run through obstacles and bounce back from rock bottom.

 

Discipline

Where does discipline comes from? It comes from within. It’s an internal force. What you are looking for, what you are talking about, what you need is self-discipline. Self-discipline are the very term implies comes from the self, it comes from you. It comes when you make a decision to be discipline. When you make a decision to be better. When you make a decision to do more and to be more. Self-discipline comes when you decide that you are going to make a mark on the world and to make you better, stronger, smarter, faster, and healthier.

 

Gift

What’s even more important it will make you free. Every breath that we take is a gift. It’s a sacred gift. Every day we have, every sunrise, every thought, every smile and every laugh is a gift. I will treasure that gift of life. I will not let it waste. Not one second of it. I will cherish every moment of it. I will live it.

 

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TIME FOR GROWTH

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TIME FOR GROWTH

It's not up to you how you fall. It's up to you how far you let yourself fall and how long it takes you to get back up and stand on your own two feet.

It’s always only the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, you must know it. The greatness comes not when the things go always good for you but the greatness comes when you are really tested. When you take some knocks, some disappointments, when sadness comes. Because only if you’ve been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain – Richard Nixon

Signal for growth

Always give your best. Never get discouraged. Never be petty. Always remember. We have to realize that time of stress and also the times that are signals for growth. If we use adversity properly we can grow through adversity. These things happen to you and you think you’ve been dealt a terrible hand or had bad luck and you just go with it. You start improvising. Suddenly you realize you’ve stumbled on one of the best things that ever happened to you. One of the biggest disabilities we have as human beings is disbelief.

 

Lobster

I will tell you a story about lobsters. Lobster are soft bushy animal that lives inside of a shell. That sell does not expend. As the lobster grows that shell becomes very confining. Lobster feels self under pressure and uncomfortable. Casts of the shell and proceeds into a new one. And eventually that shell also becomes very uncomfortable as it grows. The lobster repeats this numerous times. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. Now if lobsters have doctors they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, it goes to the doctor, gets a Valium or Percocet and feels fine.

 

Vulnerable

It will never get of his shell.  In order for the lobster to grow, at various stages of its life, it must molt. In other words, it has to get rid of its old shell and start to form a new one. Well for about 20-30 minutes the lobster is vulnerable whilst molting, it essentially becomes a piece of meat for other aquatic creatures on the prowl. The Lobster knows this, and has taken certain precautions to try to stop them from being as vulnerable such as forming a thin skin before it molts, and changing color. However, for the most part it knows that in order to grow larger it must get over its fear of being vulnerable and just shed its old shell.

 

Cut it off

Sometimes you’ve got to cut a little piece of yourself off, no matter how much it hurts in order to grow, in order to move on. Cut your fear off. Don’t have mercy for it. Don’t be afraid. Say you’re going to do something. Say it once. Put it out there for the world to see and go out and do it.

 

Ups and downs

You will have good days and you will have bad days but you will always learn something more or something new and you will learn more overall on bad days then good days. You will make mistakes along the way. You will fall down. I have. Many times. But what we do after we fall is what really counts.

 

Don’t shy away

Most of us have been on the end of many defeats in our life and we rose back. Don’t shy away from it. Don’t make excuses for it. Assess it and come back. If you can see it in your mind and you have courage to speak it. It will happen.

 

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SLIGHT EDGE

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Based on a Jeff Olson’s ‘The slight egde’

 

Water or soda?

Do you ever have a choice between a glass of water and a glass of soda and you pick the soda because “well if you have a glass of soda today, it’s not like you’re going to wake up overweight and unhealthy tomorrow?”

 

Paradox

That’s basically how we all like to think that somehow, success only comes from doing huge, important things right. We have that big paradox. On one hand, you’re right. The little decision doesn’t really matter. This one decision won’t really affect your health in any significant way, right? Getting drunk one time won’t ruin your life. Eating chips when you feel instant urge won’t make you unhealthy. Examples are everywhere.

 

Power of compounding

But on the other hand, it’s really the only thing that matters. Because in a year, you will be the result of your every little decision compounded. We simply are humongous piles of our own decisions. It’s not about judging anyone but it’s especially easy to notice in our physical appearances. We can all agree that not everybody’s going to be an athlete but we can easily spot if someone is working out 4 times a week for last 3 years, right?

 

Easy (not) to do

In essence, every little decision matters. And these little things are easy to do. When you’re on your lunch break tomorrow can make a choice of drinking water instead of soda, fruit instead of cake, vegetables instead of fat fries. Anyone is capable of doing that. But since it’s so easy to do, it is also easy not to do, and just order the soda.

 

Patience

But what if you decide to do this little thing right? You won’t be any healthier the next day, but after a year you would see huge health benefits from it. We have to stop thinking just about instant pleasure because the true reward is usually postponed.

 

Working out

I have come back to working out in the beginning of January. I haven’t been doing that for last couple of years. At least not regularly. Now it’s 6 times a week. Just 30 to 40 minutes in the evening. It has become such a vital part of my moonlight. I’m not falling asleep over my laptop any more. I feel a lot more energized and I don’t feel any muscle or joint pains any more. What’s quite suppressing to me is that it was fairly easy and there were only few days when I really had to push myself to do it.

 

Decision

Just two days ago, I went to catch up with my best buddies. One of them told me how he stopped eating sweets 9 month ago. He said: ”I really loved sweets and I was really nurturing that emotion. When I was coming back to my parent’s house I was everything they had. If they had a whole bowl of candy I was on it until it was empty. Sometimes when I was at home working on my laptop in the evening I was eating three regular bars of cholate in one sitting. I love it. One day I’ve really decided to stop”. Now after 9 month he feels energized, healthier, lighter. He doesn’t experience neither energy swings nor huge sugar urges. Every once in a while, he allows himself to eat a piece of cake but this is just a reward. It’s not an urge, instinct or a habit. This allows him to really enjoy the moment.

     

Investment

We can apply this to anything. Like Reading. What’s if you decide to read for 15 minutes a day before going to bed? That’s pretty easy to do. But since it’s pretty easy to do, it’s also pretty so easy to ignore it. If you read for 15 minutes tonight you won’t suddenly wake up smarter or more enlighten tomorrow morning. But what about a year from now? That’s going to be at least 6 books. 6 good books can literally turn you to completely different person. Whether it will be related to finances, sales, accounting, relationships or overall happiness. But first you need to make that decision.   

 

Every little decision

Paradox – on one hand you can fall for the unsuccessful mindset ‘well, it’s not like this little decision matters’ but in reality, the little decisions we make are all that matters. Every little decision of yours will be compounded at the end of the year. Who you are will be the result of it all. Neither you, me nor anyone else will be able to control every piece of our behavior. Luckily, we are not those little robots which do everything right. But at least we are more aware of how we think about little things and we can change them piece by piece. 

 

It counts

Try to align more of your little decision with your vision. The more you can do it the closer you will be to the person you really want to become. Take responsibility for where you are in life. It’s always us who decide to buy that soda.  

 

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100 DAYS OF CHANGE A MONTH TO REMEMBER

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January is already over and I really wanted to tell you what happened during that 31 days. You might think what could possibly have changed in a single month? Did anything change at all or am I just embellishing reality? Bear with me and you’ll find out.

DaybyDay

Let’s start with the biggest thing right away. If I could only name one thing that made the biggest difference and gave the best outcomes, without any hesitation I would say scheduling and organizing my day before and after work. This doesn’t sound like anything big but it’s really huge. Scheduling each upcoming week on the Sunday evening gave me clarity and focus. This single thing allowed me to accomplish and finish more things in this single month then in previous three months. Thanks to the excel workbook (8 sheets) I have created I see both my daily, weekly, monthly goals as well as my vision for this year and future after that.

 

Mine of time

Organizing my day and blocking time for each thing I want to do is the great time mine of time. It’s a great discovery of time you think you don’t have. You have it. It’s right there. But you have to go to that mine and for dig it.

 

Easy

Subpage for Failure Stories been on my mind for at least one month before. There wasn’t too much work behind it but somehow, I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t decide. As soon as it was scheduled it sure for me that it’s going to be done. And it was done in one evening. 

 

Sudden

On the other hand, subpage for 100 days of Change was a quick and sudden idea. A lot more work but I really wanted to do it. I have decided to do it when it was still fresh and compelling. Two evenings of my grind and a few more for implementation by my wonderful wife. Although it was not in my plan for January but I’m so happy we did this.

 

Delayed

For last six months, I wanted to build portfolio saving structure for our family. We were saving but not allocating it in the way I though was best for us. I was procreating to create that portfolio setup. Turned out to be 6 excel sheets, lots of formulas done in just two evenings. Something that was on my mind for six months was done in two evenings. 8 hours. How easy is to catch up on the things we are procrastinating?  

 

Visualization

This is vital part of my morning routine. Either done during the morning run or in front of the mirror. Thinking about three things I’m grateful and smiling to the mirror is a best way to start my day. This wakes and strengthens my empathy for others and my overall happiness. Second part of this process is visualization of my milestone goals and daily tasks. Clouds and dirt. Rocks and sand. Call it whatever you want. Reading and rehearsing my vision gives me an incredible boost of energy to grind and hustle every day.

 

New Habits

30-minute evening workouts became such a vital part of my moonlight. 27 times in 31 days. I feel a lot more energized and I don’t feel any muscle or joint pains any more. This habits is definitely going to stay. What’s quite suppressing to me is that it was fairly easy and there were only few days when I really had to push myself to do it.

 

Last thing on the list

On the other hand, reading for 15 minutes right before going to bed wasn’t easy at all. This was a struggle almost every day. I wanted to do such much on each evening that when it was the time for the last thing on the list, which is reading, I was almost falling asleep. 25 times doesn’t look so bad but there is a lot to improve here.

 

Week themes

This was kind a small reminder of one general thing I wanted to practice and pay attention to during each week. Posture/body language, voice (for two weeks), gestures, energy while speaking. Although you may not see or hear the difference, I do. I pay a lot more attention to those four areas. When I catch myself on doing something like e.g. shrinking my body or mumbling I instantly stop and change it. Theme weeks are about of practice but even more about self-awareness.   

 

Temptation

I have decided I’m not going to eat any sweets during the week. Only on weekends. After Christmas, our cupboard was full of sweets, what made it a lot harder to accomplish. It was easy and pleasant when I was full of energy and feeling great. But when I was tired it was getting tricky. Temptation was getting bigger but I managed to contain it. During the first weekend, I probably eat too much sweets but now I almost don’t feel any urge at all. Even though we still have some of the same sweets in the cupboard I doesn’t take any willpower from me not to eat them. Not anymore. Decision is taken. Habit is created.      

 

9 is better than none

9 runs.  I’m not particularly happy with that. I was aiming at 13 but 9 is better than none.  I was struggling with getting up for the first three weeks but now I think it’s a little bit easier. I’ve adjusted my running schedule to better fit DaybyDay plan. When I’m able to sleep for 6 or 7 hours is quite easy to wake up and run. But when it’s 5 and a half or less it takes a lot from me. When I do actually run in the morning it’s incredible feeling and I know the day is going to mine. So, it’s time to fix it.    

 

Progress. Growth. Happiness.

All in all, this 100 days of Change gives me so much energy to perform on a higher level. There is so much time for extra tiny activities that I feel a great progress every day. I know I’m on the mission to change my life one small step after the other. Progress. Growth. Happiness.

 

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THE CUT OFF

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THE CUT OFF JANUARY 15

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right - Oprah Winfrey

January 15th

How is your new year coming out so far? How is your plan? How are your resolutions? Are you still working out? Are you still on a diet? Are still learning every day? I know it’s early. Yesterday was January 15th. But you know what that day mean, don’t you? January 15th is the Cut Off. Statistics show that 95 percent of the people that actually made a new year’s resolution, have already broken it by today. And that’s if you even made a resolution.

 

Beyond resolution

Now if you are exception to that I’m thrilled for you. I support you. Keep grinding, hustling and rocking it. But if you missed maybe I can help you not only recover but get way beyond new year’s resolution and make some real lasting changes in your life (100 days of change- article).

 

Why bother?

Most people don’t even make those new year’s resolutions, but why? They have been making them so many times, for so many years and they know they’re not going to follow through. After a while who want to disappoint themselves? Who wants to be upset with themselves? Why even bother to set a new standard? You know it’s going to be the same way as last years. If you are still reading this then obviously, you’re not that kind of person.

 

3 biggest mistakes

There are some common mistakes we are all making, once we try to change any given part of our life. I have been making all of repeatedly even after knowing what I really needed to do. Those mistakes are not any kind of a secret. You know that perfectly well but knowledge without execution is not worth a dime. Three biggest mistake:

 

1. Vision

First step for lasting change is that you’ve got to have a vision. A vision for what your really, truly want. Not about what you don’t want but what you are here to achieve. It can only work when it really excites you. The bottom line of our follow through comes down to our emotional intensity. In a different state of mind you are going to come up with much better and more exciting vision than you would while sitting little inebriated on your couch on January 1st. It has got compelling. It has got to be a gift. Give yourself a gift of a really wonderful vision.

 

2. Reasons

Along with this compelling vision you’ve got to have a strong enough reason that are going to help you follow through when it’s going to get tough. That’s one of the biggest change ingredients missing for most people. You can be sure that somewhere along the way, it’s going to get really tough. Challenges are inevitable. You will be tired, you might be stressed or sick, you won’t have time, outside circumstances might destroy your plans. Those are the moments when your reasons have to pull you. You don’t let the fear take you over when you have strong enough reasons. Reasons come first, answers come second.

If you have compelling vision and you have strong enough reasons, it will push you though tough times. Instead of collapsing, you will do things other people won’t do. Even if you get of target, you will get right back. Make the change. Make things happen.

 

3. Review

You have got to review it and feel it every day. Have you ever wanted something so badly, you had such hunger for it, that you couldn’t stop thinking about it? You need to wake that hunger once again. You need to develop emotional relationship between you and your desired outcome. Once you start to keep thinking about it, envisioning it, imagining it, feeling it, you will attract things and people to your life. It will become a major part of your focus, with emotions and intensity that you will notice anything that can get you there.

 

What happened?

What people do with new year’s resolutions?  They come up with something they kind of want. It’s not a compelling vision. They really don’t have strong enough reasons and they never review it until they’ve noticed that they’ve broke what they said they really wanted to happen. They didn’t really resolve.

 

Set yourself to win

When you really get clear on your reasons, your vision is compelling and you are reviewing it every day, the brain becomes incredibly acute at noticing anything that can get you move forward. And you find a way.

 

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THE CUT OFF JANUARY 15

ENJOY YOUR RIDE

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100 DAYS OF CHANGE

Don't be afraid of change, it is leading you to a new beginning – Joyce Meyer

Once you start your Journey don’t expect anyone to notice. Don’t wait for approval, don’t wait for help and don’t expect it. That goes with the territory. It’s yours.

 

Approval

People who get the most approval and respect are the ones who care the least about it. Once you start being busy doing you’ll notice that you stopped concerning yourself about other people’s opinion. Advance confidently on the Journey towards your vision and dreams even if it’s against the judgment of your entourage.

 

Before landing

Before you finish your project, your Journey sit again with yourself and ask yourself three simple questions:

  1. Whether the thing I worked for, what I have created or contributed made any difference? Did it make my or other people’s life, job, day better? Does it really matter?
  2. Was this my most excellent performance, contribution? Did I give it my best effort or was it just a slapdash? Did I take my time to prepare it? Did I really fight and grind for it? Have I tested it? Be diligent in advance. Before you contribute think it through to make it excellent.
  3. Does it have your emotions, spirit and heart all over it? Is there motion in it? Be sure to fill your life and life of others with emotions, colors and joy again. Bring it back.

 

Self-made

Remember it is your Journey. Don’t be surprised that many people will discount you even if you help them. What I’m going say to you now might come as a surprise but we need to accept it and it will make your Journey easier. Once people are aware of you and your work they will ignore you on purpose. Don’t expect to be encouraged or cheered. It’s yours. Than they will laugh at you and your failures. They will wait for your mistakes. If this won’t work for them and your success will grow immensely people will start to fight you. They will be threatened by your actions and your successes. But you shouldn’t have any time to worry about it.

We are all self-made but only successful once will admit it. Admit to outcomes.   

 

Whisper

Do you hear that whisper? This is a barely audible voice in the world of fierce noise. Stop for a second. Listen up. Focus. It’s me reaching to break you out from the grasp of fear and impotence of inaction.  I genuinely believe you will take all the necessary time to get to know yourself. There is no downside to this investment and your gains can be truly magnificent.

 

For yourself

Wake up. I know you don’t want to. I know you are tired. I know you need to rest. I know all that but it doesn’t matter. Wake up. This is my call to you. I urge you. I ask you. I encourage you. Do it for yourself. Not for others. Not for me. Not for your friends. Not even for your family. Not for the money. Not for the accolades. No, do it for yourself.

 

Size of your thinking

Make the most important decision of your life. Make it NOW. Start your Journey to greatness and fulfillment. It can take you wherever you dared to envision. The only limit is the scale of your thinking. There is nothing else. How big are your thoughts?

 

Your recipe

The strategies and experiences you’ve learned can easily separate you from others and protect you from being mediocre but remember there is no clear recipe for success. No magic formula. No shortcut. No prescription for success. The only recipe is the one you will create for yourself. This will be the product crafted out of a tone of hard work during your Journey. Let your Journey become the most fulfilling project of your life.

 

Enjoy the ride

I wish it on all of you. You’re on your own Journey. You’re going after your own Vision and I wish you to be strong, persistent but what’s a lot more important find your happiness and joy.  You can live your life on your terms, on your scale right NOW and you can really enjoy it.   

 

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100 DAYS OF CHANGE

100 DAYS OF CHANGE

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100 DAYS OF CHANGE

If there is no struggle, there is no progress - Frederick Douglass

It’s corny title I know, but nothing else better reflects what I’m going to do. This is an introduction and invitation to my Journey. It will not be about big leaps of change. It will only be about small changes, tiny adjustments and habits forged day by day. I know this not what most people are looking for. You won’t find any magic formula, overnight success or recipe for greatness here. It may seem that it will be about arduous, repetitive and boring baby steps. But that’s how any sustainable and long-term change is produced.  Yes, change is not given, found or won, it’s produced, it’s forged, it’s wrenched from our fears.

 

New Year’s resolutions?

Dreams. Expectations. High hopes. In January, most of us have plans or resolutions for the upcoming year. If we won’t schedule them specifically they will just stay our wishes. I’m not a big fun of New Year’s resolutions but you need to start someday and it doesn’t matter when.   

 

Habits

But to make lasting changes we need to develop strong enough habits.  Our days are full of those daily habits, routines, rituals and they are very important part of our life. They are making who we are, how we feel and where we are going to be in the future. Some of those routines serve us very well. Others not at all. If you want to change any of them, you need to replace them with new habits. That is the crucial part. If you leave that space empty, either bad habit will come back in a light speed or you will find yourself doing things you didn’t want to do.

 

The Plan

You have to be aware of your rituals and habits and what’s most important you need to have full control over them. Way too many times I knew what I wanted to accomplish, I even knew how I need to do it but I didn’t plan it. I didn’t organize it properly. I didn’t block time for it. This is a mistake I’m not going to repeat any more. I’m done with that. It actually took me couple of days to set it up and plan my goals, my change, my vision, my Journey.

 

Inner beauty

My plan doesn’t look very fancy. It’s not very sophisticated. But it’s going to work. It’s a simple excel sheet with 13 columns. My goals are divided into three categories. Milestones, rocks and minor rocks (I couldn’t come up with a better name). I’m not going to get into specifics but this is a plan for a whole year, with specific goals to get my vison which is on the next excel sheet. I didn’t want to spend hours preparing all this it and then just store it on my disc. That’s why it requires that I open it at least twice a day. There is a column with specific daily goals and a different one showing my progress. It needs to be updated every day. I made it to be a game and competition with myself. I made it to be fun and it is.

 

Day

This is not a shock therapy and I wanted to avoid any big changes. New habits and behaviors I have added to my life are not taking me more than 30 min each.  Each day is planed with repetitive daily habits spread though out the whole day.  First item in my list is getting back to running before work and I’m reviving my morning routines. Saying three things I’m grateful for. Smiling for three minutes. Reading for 15 minutes before going to bed. Another thing is a general theme for each of week. For example, in the first week I’m going to work and pay attention to my body posture and body language.   

 

Rocks

Those little habits are very important to me but what’s even more meaningful are the bigger projects that I was putting off way too long. Those are the rocks that are going to build the milestones of my life. Each ‘rock’ is a part of a snowball that’s only going to get bigger and bigger.  Now all of those rocks are planned and scheduled in my calendar. On some of them I’m going to work as fast as this week, others are planned for February, March or later. But they are all in there. Each day is organized, planed and there is no space for working on what I feel like in the moment.

 

Not a one-night stand

This time it’s not going to be a challenge. It’s something far more important than a challenge. Challenge prompts assumptions that it is a onetime thing, one-night stand. It suggests that we’re going to do it, accomplish our outcome, that we’re going to get to the third base and forget about. I want to from a relationship with my outcomes. I’m going to make us inseparable partners.  

 

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FAILURE STORIES. EP. 04 COLONEL SANDERS

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF FAILURE. PART 1

Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it don't matter - Satchel Paige

This is a remarkable story of Colonel Harland Sanders. A Man who started at 62 and failed 1009 times before succeeding.  This story is inspirational because it’s an example of how perseverance, dedication, and ambition along with hard work can create success; regardless of your age.

 

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Colonel Harland Sanders has become a world-known figure by marketing his “finger lickin’ good” Kentucky Fried Chicken. He was the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC). However, most people know him because of his iconic white suit, black string tie and walking cane. His statues are almost all over the world since KFC is present in about 118 countries.

 

Retirement

One of the most amazing thing is that he just started when most of us are already finishing. While most people can’t wait to start being really lazy he started to be really busy. At the age of 62, after running a restaurant for several years, Colonel Sanders retired and received his first social security check for $105. And it wasn’t until the age of 65 when he sold his first restaurant, when he truly started to build his global fried chicken empire.  

 

Biggest Asset

Col. Sanders loved to share his fried chicken recipe and in return people were telling him how much they loved it. This helped him build an incredible confidence and certainty in his recipe. He was determined to sell the world on his delicious chicken secret.  Not having much at his disposal, Colonel Sanders decided to use his biggest asset. Try to think what is one of the biggest assets of most people who are retired? It’s Time. Using that to the fullest he traveled door to door to houses and restaurants all over his local area. He wanted to partner with someone to help promote his chicken recipe. Needless to say, he was met with little enthusiasm.

 

1009 rejections

In those tough times of rejection confidence in his recipe helped him perceiver and be persistent in his hustle. But if he wouldn’t learn from his failures and if he wouldn’t keep on changing his approach it probably wouldn’t get him anywhere. After being rejected many times he started to cook his fried chicken on the spot for restaurant owners. If the owner liked the chicken, they would enter into a handshake agreement to sell the Colonel’s chicken. Legend has it that Colonel Sanders was turned down 1009 times before his chicken was accepted once.  

 

Deal?

The deal was that for each piece of chicken the restaurant sold, Sanders would receive a nickel. The restaurant would receive packets of Colonel’s secret herbs and spices in order to avoid them knowing the recipe. The first restaurant that he landed was based out of Salt Lake City, Utah, which became the first Kentucky Fried Chicken. The restaurant tripled its sales within a year where 75% of that revenue was from the colonel’s chicken.

 

Exit

The company grew and expanded faster than he could have ever imagined. In 1964, at the age of 74 years old, Colonel Sanders had 600 franchises selling his trademark chicken. He sold the company for $2 million dollars to a group of investors led by Jack C. Massey and John Y. Brown Jr. But he retained the rights to the Canadian franchises and stayed on as a salaried goodwill ambassador to the company. In 1976, the Colonel was ranked as the world’s second most recognizable celebrity. This just goes to show us that it doesn’t matter how old we are or just how much money we have to our name in order to accomplish something great.

 

Secret recipe

Did he succeeded because he had proper connections? Did he have the best education? Large capital in the beginning? Incredible marketing abilities? Was he very well situated? Born with any advantages? Was he young when he started? No. None of this is true. There is only one reason for his success. He knew what he wanted and he took massive action.

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You are much stronger than you think - Superman

Some of the most successful people are like modern-day superheroes. Just like superheroes they are masters of performance. They operate and execute on the highest level. The only difference is they haven’t been born with those superpowers. They developed and grew them. In contradistinction to what everybody else thinks they were not born with it. It is a result of a long hours, days, months, years of learning and practice. It is postponed effect and outcome of their tenacity and courage.

 

Common denominator

How can we learn to constantly perform on the highest level? What do we have to know before we start to deliberately elevate on our performance? What the highest performers have in common?

 

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There are 6 powers of high performers, you need to have if you want to reach or exceed your potential:

 

1. Power of clarity.

You need to have unparalleled level of clarity of who you are, who you want to be. You need to know what do you strive to achieve and experience. Learn how to treat and interact with other people to gain best outcomes. Be incredibly focused and clear about who you are, what you are after and what you should do to achieve it. The part of being clear and certain is knowing what your Journey is about, what is your vision, what are you about, what drives and excites you, what are your strengths. It allows you to make better decision and evaluate your situation more precisely. You can intentionally focus on the most important elements and eradicate all distractions. Clarity is necessary to consistently perform on the highest level.

 

2. Power of conviction.

Ninety percent of selling is conviction and 10 percent is persuasion -Shiv Khera.

We are all salesmen and marketers, trying to constantly influence others as well as ourselves. Most successful people are masters of influence.  To leverage anyone, you need to have deep seated conviction. It’s not about dogmatism, it’s about being fully confident in your beliefs, decisions and actions.

When I was a sales associate in a bank and I wasn’t convinced that the product that I was trying to sell is any good, it was exceptionally hard to close the deal or even get to that moment. On hand products that in my opinion were great, were fairly easy to sell. When you speak with emotions, understanding and confidence from the state of conviction people will know in their gut that they can trust you. My former boss was so convinced of about one of business product we had, that she was selling only that. She had it for herself for a few years and when you were listing to her talking about it you felt her emotions, her passion, her vision, her personal experience. She could sell it to anyone who would qualify. Anyone.

 

3. Power of energy.

More power gives you more options, more control over your actions and outcomes. Physical vitality and mental endurance make each day exceptional and remarkable. It’s not luck or a blessing to be full of vitality­. You can generate that energy deliberately by conditioning and controlling your physical and mental state. Pay great attention to what you put in your mouth. Pay attention what your training regimen is, how you behave, what your habits and routines are, what emotions you consume and produce. By focusing on what is most important and what you have control over, you purposely direct that energy to areas of their choosing. Be very cautious when you give away your energy, your time or your attention. Don’t let yourself or others to distract you. If you are multitasking all the time your energy gets dismembered all the time. Focus your energy on the most important things.

 

4. Power of courage.

You need to speak for yourself, your ideas on a daily basis. Learn to take bold actions and risks lightly. Do the things no one has done before. Speak your mind and show what you stand for with respect for others and yourself but do it decisively. Don’t let yourself be parasailed by your failures, doubts and other people’s judgments. It takes a high degree of courage to put your ideas out in the world and to express who you really are. It takes courage to say no to things that are not in line with your Journey and your vision. Learn to say No. Stick to your purpose when the whole world is judging you. Have the courage to stay on the course to your destination. It takes a lot of courage not to give up your Journey.

 

5. Power of influence.

If you expect great outcomes and extraordinary success, it almost always requires contributions from other people. You need to gain their attention and trust. To do it you need to be a master  of influence. High performers are exceptional with other people because they give them time, attention and respect.  If you want to influence anyone, you’ve got to recognize what is already influencing them. It will either be the state they are in or their belief and the rules they live by. To manage other people’s state, learn to manage your state first. To push other people buttons you need to learn and test them on yourself.  If you want to be that linchpin, you need to care deeply about others and make them want to reciprocate. Be the best in cheering others. Make them feel important.

 

 6. Power of productivity.

Produce and release more outcomes. Be more efficient and effective with your time. You can get a lot more done in the same amount of time. Would you like to reach your full potential? Would you like to make more things done?  So how productive have you been in last few weeks? Could you do more? How do you think you could do it? What do you need from yourself to be more productive? What more do you need? Write down your answers and realize where you are in relation to your potential. You could do so much more. The proof is in the pudding. Start NOW!

 

No one is born a with those superpowers. They can only be created by  your habits, your hustle and your grind.

 

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